(Closed) Is it normal to know you are getting engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I knew. I knew when he went to ask my dad’s permission, I knew when he got the diamond from my uncle, I knew my ring was 1/3 I showed him. So you don’t know exactly when or where or how. I don’t think knowing it is coming is going to ruin all the fun.

Post # 4
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I knew my proposal was coming, had helped pick the ring.

No, it did not make it any less special when he proposed- it took my breath away!

Post # 5
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ladye6047:  I knew my Fiance was going to propose. I helped pick out my ring and then ended up going to the jeweler to find it because they misplaced it when he went to purchase it.

Just let it be. Let him do his thing. Knowing didn’t make it any less special.

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we picked out our ring together and he phoned me the day it was ready for pickup – no surprise and still very special

Post # 7
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Bridgewater Place

My fiance and I communicate the same way so we discussed the idea of getting married and feeling ready to take that step just like you did. He wanted to know what rings I liked so we looked at them together. The ring I’m wearing now is the ring I picked. I’m grateful I got to pick it because I’m going to be wearing it for the rest of my life! I knew it would be coming but I really had no idea when.

Being entirely honest however; I would have preferred to not know a proposal was coming. But if we hadn’t talked about it, I could very well still be waiting in a sad and jealous state feeling like it was never going to happen. So I’ll take knowing over that any day.

The only thing that was weird to me was that I didn’t cry; I always pictured myself crying. *shrug*

Post # 8
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

my fiance and I had known since very early that we wanted to get married but I was ready before he was. I took him into jewelry stores and showed him things that i liked. i told him that i hate surprises but he wanted to surprise me anyway and boy did he. but i sort of knew it was coming before september. we had a lot of oncversations but i think knowing about it makes it even more special because there is no stressing (on either person’s part) about how it is going to go. You can both just enjoy the moment.

Post # 9
934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I knew that it was going to happen. He had it all planned and then the ring didn’t get delivered in time. He was very broody and I was like ‘WHAT is your problem tonight?’ and it allll came tumbling out. Awww.

He proposed a month later. It was still a very special moment, even though I knew it was coming sometime. It didn’t really become real to me that we were actually going to get married until he proposed, though. So that was a surprise.

An advanced congratulations to you!

Post # 10
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is exactly how my Fiance and I are together. I wouldn’t trade our “team effort” approach to anything and our ability to agree on all important plans for anything else in the world. Do I wish I could have gotten a more surprising proposal? Maybe just the slightest bit. Do I ever think about it and feel bad? No, too busy being happy that I’m marrying someone who is so perfect for me, we can’t even keep anything a secret from each other because we’re always on the same page. 

Post # 11
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I knew it was coming, and it was still very special. I picked out my ring and everything, but when the time came he made sure i was in a good mood and that the moment was just perfect..and it was!

Post # 12
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I knew as well. We went together to pick out a ring, I showed him a specific one that I wanted, I knew he’d probably propose to me when we were on vacation, but it still completely shocked me when it happened. I just stood there frozen with a big goofy grin on my face, lol.

Post # 13
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel like it’s wierd not to know… If you are ready to get married. I’d hope it wasn’t a surprise to you. I would hope you would be on the same page so you would at least expect the proposal. I’m not very traditional so I know lots of guys like planning the big event. That being said we picked it out together and I knew he was giving it to me. It doesn’t make it less special or memorable at all. We went out to dinner that night to celebrate. Just depends on what sort of people you are I think. I think it was really special because it wasn’t a big show.  We love each other and are commited. It’s simple as that.:)

Post # 14
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I read on WBee recently, that a great percentage of Proposals aren’t what the Brides-2-B actually expected… and many of them weren’t the surprises… down on one knee affairs that Tv and the Movies has lead us all to believe.

In my own case, after 6-1/2 Years together, Mr. TTR and I were in Myrtle Beach on vacation, and we saw a bridal couple getting their pictures done on the Beach.  He said “that looks like fun, maybe we should do that”… and I said “Really”… he said “Ya you should look into that… maybe we can do it the next time we are here” (we go to MB often) and that was it.

Next day we were in Jewellery Stores browsing / looking at rings to see what we liked … (didn’t buy one).  And when we came home from vacation, he told everyone we were engaged and getting married.  To be honest, I didn’t feel engaged because he hadn’t done the regular “asking scenario”… And without a ring, I didn’t know whether to post in WBee as Engaged or Waiting (I hung out on the Waiting Boards… figuring I’d get a “true” Proposal once we found a ring)

It took us 6 weeks to find a ring… and even then there was no “true” Proposal… in reality, we saw it, he bought it, and when it came in two weeks later, we picked it up and he slipped on my finger.

In between the trip to MB and getting the ring, he did tell my Dad the news “We are planning to get married”… and also asked him for his “blessing” of our marriage (which was sweet… considering my first husband didn’t do that… and My Fiance is 60+ and my Dad 80+)

So looking back, I sure didn’t get the mushy romantic proposal that I might have envisioned… but that is ok, because what I did get was something that really fits us as a couple… and he has spoiled me ever since he first dropped that non-imposing observation / comment into our everyday conversation “That looks like fun, maybe we should do that”…

I got an incredible E-Ring (that we picked out together, that really represents “us” as well… I picked out the setting, he picked out an AMAZING feature diamond).  I got the wonderful experience to hold his hand as he told My Dad that he loved me, and wanted to marry me… and I get to catch him stealing looks at my E-Ring, or proudly telling friends that we are now engaged (“Hey have you told them yet”… he might say in passing).  And now in the midst of wedding plans, he’s even chatting to “the guys” quite comfortably saying “Ya its cool… we are going to get married on the beach… very casual and all… I can even wear my flip-flops”

So ya know what… I wouldn’t trade “the canned” proposal for what I have in reality right now… the knowledge that I am with someone who LOVES me very very much, and can’t wait to marry me !!

He shows me that EVERY DAY, in HIS OWN WAY… and IT’S AWESOME !!

Post # 15
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, I knew as well. We had been together for over four and a half years by the time we got engaged (and I started getting a bit antsy, like “hey, you damn well better be proposing soon”.. I don’t do tact well. ;)), and he & I had looked around for rings off and on for about a year when we were in malls and stuff. I actually accidentally found out that he was proposing not too long beforehand, but that’s okay, because I tend to accidentally ruin his surprises all the time. 

Post # 16
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Someone once said engagement shouldn’t be a surprise, but a proposal can be. 🙂

We looked at some rings together. He did the final purchasing and the proposal was a surprise.

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