Is it odd to get a necklace or earrings instead of an engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think a necklace using the heirloom stone would be an awesome idea! Could you wear that at work? Like a solitaire pendant or maybe set in a bezel? Cool idea!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

prettyemme:  is it odd? Maybe.  Is it wrong?  No. It’s a personal choice between you and your SO so,  as long as it’s something you both agree on then go for it! 

I don’t wear any jewellery at all so was really apprehensive about wearing a ring. It was important to FI though so I decided to get one. We designed it together and had it custom made and I have surprised myself by how much I love it! It feels so natural on my finger and, already, it feels like something is missing when I don’t have it on. I have a very physical job so don’t wear it at work. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

prettyemme:  nice!! Check out the diamonds by the yard style-I think bezels as part of the chain instead of hanging off is pretty 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I got a modest ring and some amazing earrings as an engagement present. I also thought I could never get used to a ring, and was ready to wear it on a chain around my neck. But the band is very small and thin, and it actually took no time at all to get used to wearing it. Now I feel like I have the best of both worlds with a ring and earrings!

Do whatever you and your partner like! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Do whatever makes you two happy!

If I were you, I would put your mom’s diamond in an “engagement” necklace and then get a plain band to wear once you’re married.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

If it was me, I’d probably have the ring – as a ring – set into a chain so I could wear it as necklace but wouldn’t have it completely reset into one.

But there is no reason you can’t have it permanently necklaceified if that’s what you guys want.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t think it’s odd, maybe different but nothing wrong with that! Necklaces scare me, I’m always scared it will get caught on something and break, I would never wear a 3 carat diamond around my neck..lol. I also do not wear my rings at work, I work in a mine, very dirty there! I have considered getting a plain rose gold band to wear at work though. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

prettyemme: What if you wear it out and for special occasions and then just wear a simple wedding band or a stand in to the gym? 

I won’t ever wear my rings to the gym, bc I lift heavy. However, if DH doesn’t go with me one evening, I wear a stand in (small white topaz) to help deter the inevitable gym creeps.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If you’re not comfortable with a ring and rather a necklace or earrings then go for it! I hardly ever see anyone at the gym (especially the trainers) with rings on, but do see some of the ladies that have earrings or neckalces on, so it want a design can wear at the gym when work there’s nothing wrong with that. And if your SO would like you to have one then maybe find something you’re ok with wearing when not working. It’s all about what you and your SO are comfortable with, those are the only opinions that truly matter. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

prettyemme:  Get a ring tattoo! just jk. If I were you, I’d make the diamond into a necklace and get a plain band for when you’re married – a cheap one you can lose or scratch or whatever without any worries. I think if you get something light weight and thin you might actually get used to it. 🙂

Post # 14
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Newbee

prettyemme:  

I don’t think it’s a bad idea at all.  When we went shopping for our wedding bands I chose one that I could also wear on a delicate chain around my neck.  Someday – a birthday or maybe our first anniversary the chain will make a nice gift for my husband to give me & then I’ll have the option of wearing it as a necklace.

If you have heirloom stones & want to use them then you absolutely should!  If it were me, I’d try to set them in a design that still suggested a ring or a circle of sorts just because I am on the traditional side myself and I like the “eternity” factor that a ring imparts.  But that’s just my style. You should do whatever you like & be happy.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think that’s a great idea if you know you never want to wear a ring!  However, if you think you might want to have the option of wearing it as a ring when you aren’t working or even just for special occasions there is some company that makes necklaces that have a special hook you loop the ring onto.  If you don’t like the setting as it is now, you could have the stone reset into something more your style and then wear it as the necklace most of the time.  Someone posted the name of the company here before, but now I don’t remember what it was called.  A lot of nurses and doctors wear this since they often can’t wear rings to work.  Maybe one of the healthcare bees knows and can post the name here again in case that’s something you might be interested in.

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