Is it ok for me to send my own Bachelorette Weekend Invitations? Poor form?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it ok to send your own Bachelorette Weekend invitations?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    47 %
    No : (20 votes)
    44 %
    Maybe, explain : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    I don’t think it’s the norm and I don’t think I would have done it, however I wouldn’t say faux pas because it’s not an occassion where gifts are expected and the lodging is free. When it’s a shower or something where gifts are expected, then it breaks ettiquite to host it yourself. There’s nothing you can do at this point, so don’t sweat it!

     

    Post # 4
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would think that the host of the bachelorette party should be the one sending the invites, not the bride. I would find it odd to RSVP to the bride. 

    Post # 5
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    9529 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Technically you aren’t supposed to host your bachelorette party so you shouldn’t send invitations. Has your MOH offered to host your bachelorette party? If so, I’d let her handle the inviting and organizing. That’s the host’s job. Your job is to provide a suggested guest list and contact information for those guests. If your nobody has offered to host your bachelorette, you have to decide if having a bachelorette is important enough to you that you’re okay with breaking traditional etiquette and hosting it yourself. That may or may not be well received by your friends.

    The invitations you sent aren’t the end of the world. So don’t worry about it. Just let your MOH handle things from here. She should be the one doing the planning. If people have questions, refer them to her and give them her contact info.

    Post # 6
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    8018 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Kwhoa:  I think if you are arranging and hosting the lodging then its kosher. Honestly, its ruder that your friend called you out on it!

    Post # 7
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I wouldn’t care. I know it isn’t etiquette, but an invite is an invite. I know some people are sticklers about these things much more than I am, though.

    Post # 10
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    9529 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Kwhoa:  Sounds like a good plan! Your MOH sounds like the type that could maybe use some gentle nudging to get things organized in a timely fashion, so dropping hints here and there isn’t a bad idea. “Have you thought about invitations or what we’ll do for the bachelorette party? I know you’re handling things and will get everything together, I’m just so excited I can’t help myself! It’s going to be so much fun! Thank you so much for hosting!”

    Post # 11
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    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Whatever, you just sent a save the date kind of thing!  It is rude of your friend to be all like “um yeah why did YOU send this?”

    BTW, I did a bachelorette party in Ocean City a couple years back – where are you going?

    Post # 12
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    6505 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s totally fine and I think it’s nice of you to help your MOH out with it. I think it was kind of rude of that girl to call you out.

    Post # 13
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Kwhoa:  since it’s a free weekend I don’t see the issue. It would be totally different if you were inviting them to a weekend away and expecting them to pay. 

    Post # 15
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    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Kwhoa:  We went in April so it was chilly for us too!

    We did dinner and then Seacrets.

    This wasn’t my first rodeo with Seacrets, so I probably went in with a negative attitude (and I was sick and not drinking…so yeah I was probably a bit of a negative nancy) but man it was…an experience.  The bride was happy, though, so whatever!

    I tried to go to Fagers with some friends a couple years back, but we turned around when we were told the cover charge since we had just paid to get into Seacrets earlier that night.

    Seacrets is definitely right for some people and not for others.

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