Is it ok for the RSVP for the rehearsal dinner to be to me?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

wouldn’t bother me at all

Post # 3
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s exactly what we did!

Post # 5
4961 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

kimmo416:  I’m pretty sure I wrote this exact post about 3 months ago 🙂 I had them RSVP to me and it worked out great – we held it at my dad’s house but FI’s parents paid for the catering so they were both technically “hosts”. 

Post # 6
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s fine! I think most people expect to RSVP to the couple and understand that it’s logistically easier since the hosting parents may not be familiar with everyone.

Post # 7
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with PPs that I really wouldn’t notice or care.  I think nowadays it’s common for RSVPs to go to the couple (even for the wedding itself) whether or not someone else is footing the bill.  It just makes sense for the people who are planning all the details to get those numbers rather than having a middleman to check in with.

Our rehearsal and wedding RSVPs came to us (we were mainly hosting both).  A colleague of mine’s daughter also got married this summer and she mentioned the RSVPs were going to her because her daughter lives in California and left the wedding planning to mom who is local to the venue in Massachusetts.  No one batted an eye in either instance.

Post # 8
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s what we did. My MIL said it wasn’t necessary to send out invites, so I just did it myself and gave the restaurant a head count for her. 

Post # 9
4586 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

For ours, I am pretty sure that we’ll be sending out an email inviation from one of our email accounts – since it’s up to us on who ius invited to it. I’m sure no one will think anything of it.

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