Is it ok if your SO gets a lap dance or strip show for free from a woman?

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it ok with you if your SO gets a strip show or lap dance from a woman other than a stripper?
    Yes, I trust my SO. : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, but only if I know the woman doing the stripping/lap dance. : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, but only if I'm there with him. : (5 votes)
    2 %
    No, he can only get a lap dance or strip show from a stripper. : (77 votes)
    29 %
    No, my SO can't interact with any woman in that way aside from me. : (154 votes)
    57 %
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    1321 posts
    Bumble bee

    Nope. He can go to a strip club, but no one dancing on him in any circumstance.

    8046 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @bunnyharriet:  Strip clubs I don’t LIKE per se, but I’d be ok w. my guy going for a bachelor party or something. I draw the line at lap dances, though. It just weirds me out. That crosses over from the looking to the touching, which I am not ok with.

    A lap dance from a friend or stranger? Unless this was a hired stripper for some function, then I would go ahead and call this cheating. It’s a sexual act being performed, isn’t it? I can’t really think of any occasion where a lap dance from a friend or stranger could occur, unless it was some drunken college party lol. I am not too worried about my 40 yr old other half getting a lap dance from anyone.. but theoretically I’d be against it, in a strip club or elsewhere.

    ETA: I assume we’re talking about serious lap dances where the lady is wearing little to no clothing.. not a fully clothed lap dance (if such a thing exists). Odd question but now you’ve got me thinking hahaha.

    2543 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would like to know what lady goes up to a man and says, “Hey, you look like you could use a free strip show. No, no, no. I’m doing this out of the goodness of my heart, Mister. Put those dollar bills away!”


    6210 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My SO and I have talked — I’m a-OK with strippers, lap dances, whatever. I don’t care. At the end of the day, he’s crawling into bed with me. So, he can look at the menu, he just can’t order off of it.


    21 posts

    My SO is not a big strip club guy. If he went to one for a bachelor party or something similar, it wouldn’t be a big deal to me. If someone bought him a lap dance, I wouldn’t be thrilled, but not really upset either. If he bought one for himself, I would be agitated. If he got one from a non-stripper, I would be livid.

    21 posts

    @bunnyharriet:  That is insane. Do you have a lot of wild friends? Maybe we are old and boring, but the craziest thing that ever happens at parties we are invited to is someone getting in a (verbal) fight. 

    818 posts
    Busy bee

    No, absolutely not. 

    We tend to be very fair in our relationship. He would not be comfortable with a man touching me like that, so why should I be okay with another woman touching him like that?

    It helps that we’re both kind of possessive of each other, haha.

    851 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope.  Then again, I’m not okay with another naked/mostly naked woman grinding on my SO in any context.  Why should I be?

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