(Closed) Is it ok NOT to have a MOH?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Um…you still need someone to witness your marriage.  So youll either need a MOH or pick one anyway..

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s perfectly OK! I had 2 girls and called them both bridesmaids.

There are certain duties only one girl can do (stand closest to you, hold you bouquet during the vows, sign the register, walk out immediately after you, etc). But you can do that and still call them all “bridesmaid”.

As an aside, I think 8 is too many and you might want to consider restricting the bridal party to your 4 closest. The other girls can still be involved in the bachelorette party, and even be in some photos if you want.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Of course it is!  Just have them all be bridesmaids and then have one of them sign the certificate.  It doesn’t have to be some big important special honor to sign the thing so I don’t think that necessitates having a MOH.  I don’t think any wedding guests notice whether people are regular BMs or MOHs or whatever.

ETA: Ah, I see you have the signing thing all worked out.  Cool.  Yeah just have 8 BMs and no particular maid of honor – no one will notice and no one’s feelings will get hurt.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

it’s your wedding so you can have it anyway you want!.

With that said… i did not want any bridal party at all either cause i didnt want to choose only one MOH and hurt others in the process… but in the end. we did end up having a wedding party because we need help setting up and watching for the little details.. however, we are not naming one MOH and one BM… We are having them all be our Maids of Honors and Best Men 😉 save us some unnecessary drama

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes. I technically don’t have one but I been calling one person my moh cause I guess I been thinking of her that way and she been really nice and going to things with me when my Fi isn’t here. I think it is ok.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PhillyLove:  Don’t let that stop you! My husband asked a best man but I always called mine bridesmaids. When it came to printing the wedding program we listed them as “bridesmaids” and “groomsmen”. I doubt the actual best man cared, because it was obvious he was acting as best man since he stood closest during the ceremony, and gave a speech at the reception.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I feel the same way! I am having five bridesmaids, but did not ask any of them to be my maid of honor. I wasn’t sure who to single out for that, because I feel pretty much equally close to all of them – and I know maid of honor is a lot of work, so I didn’t want anyone to feel obligated. So, we will just have bridesmaids and groomsmen, and hopefully it will work out well!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

no, one does not have to have a MOH, it’s not like it’s against the law or something. 

there are no hard and fast rules for how you should plan your wedding.  I chose to not have a MOH because (like you) I thought of all of my bridesmaids as equals and didn’t want anyone to be singled out. also,  I didn’t want to put the “burden” of being one on any of my friends – financial or otherwise.  if there was anything I needed that traditionally a MOH does, I simply asked somebody to do it – such as gathering presents after the reception. or I did it myself, such as planning my own engagement party. I didn’t want a wedding shower, so that was no biggie. some girlfriends co-planned my bachelorette party and everybody pitched in for the money for it. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had “maids of honor” and “best men” instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen 🙂 they stood at the altar by height, and our brothers signed the marriage certificate. We each had six and couldn’t pick just one to single out, so we didn’t and nobody cared.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Weird, I was thinking the same thing.  I have a sister and a best friend and I don’t want to hurt either one of them.  I’m having a fairly small and kinda untraditional wedding so I am thinking about just having all bridesmaids and then having my sister be the “witness”

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