Post # 1
Hello fellow bees! My fiance and I are struggling with how to approach our wedding registry. We are in the process of being stationed with the air force in Alaska. My fiance will be moving there before the wedding (he’ll go in may) and then I will be following him in August after the wedding. Wedding will be in contiguous US. Problem is, everybody is starting to ask us where we plan on registering… We are worried about getting gifts from the wedding to alaska (I will be flying) and shipping can be sooo expensive (if the business even offers it at all). We don’t want our guests having to shell out for shipping on top of their gifts/travel expenses. So does anybody have any advice? Is it ok not to register at all? And I will not be listing on the invitation that we are requesting cash.. tacky.
thanks for the help!!
Post # 3
@movingtoalaskabride: Perfectly okay… but be aware you will likely still get physical gifts so maybe register for a few small things and add a note on your website about what you wrote about here — “We appreciate your well wishes. Unfortunately we wil be soon moving to Alaska and unable to take most of our physical possesions. As such, we kindly request no physical gifts.”
DON’T mention money or cash or anything else. The above basically hints at it but doesn’t expect people to instead give you money and that’s the key with ettiquette.
ETA: also if your FI will be there, people could send the gifts directly to Alaska, so that’s something to think about too… so it’s not your worry about getting them up there so you could say something like “If you are inclined to send a gift, please send to us in Alaska”
Post # 4
@movingtoalaskabride: I think its perfectly fine not to register.
If people continue to ask, simply tell them you would prefer no boxed gifts due to the logistics of GETTING them to Alaska.
**Don’t register for anything. Even small gifts. My husband is an engineer for BP on the north slope. A few months ago, I had to mail him some prescriptions. The damn package was about the size of a shoe box and weighed under 2 pounds and cost me nearly $20 to mail. EVERYTHING has to go air mail up there, so its super expensive to send anything up there.
Post # 5
I’m not registering. I already have everything I want. I’ve set up an online registry for a honeymoon and a few small gifts people can contribute towards, and I’ve made it clear that people don’t have to bring a gift if they don’t want to.
Post # 6
You don’t have to register. Typically, if you don’t register, it means the couple wants cash.. If someone pushes you, just say the difficulty in moving any gifts to Alaska was too much to handle, and that you really just want to celebrate your marriage with your closest friends and family!