Is it ok to ask bridesmaids to tip?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How should we go about paying for hair/ makeup?
    Just have them pay for it. They are expecting to anyway. : (25 votes)
    35 %
    Cover the cost itself and have them tip the stylists. : (12 votes)
    17 %
    Cover everything or nothing at all. Asking them to tip is rude. : (30 votes)
    42 %
    Split it. Yes, tip only would be cheaper for them but it's awkward. : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    If you are covering the service as a courtesy, being asked to cover the tip seems like a slap in the face.  I am only getting my hair/makeup/nails done this way to please you as the bride so I look the way you want me to in your pictures.

    Edit: You’re asking them to pay for it too?  Oh heck no.  Let them do their own hair and makeup if you can’t afford to pay for it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5017 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Mademoiselle-G:  I would just tell them the prices – as they have already agreed to pay. If anyone has an issue with it, they should still have the option of doing it themselves (as you said you gave them the choice!). I would just send a text/email, saying “here are the prices – please let me know if you are still interested so I can tell the makeup/hair woman the correct amount of girls getting it done” and then go from there. Also – if you can cover it, I think it would be fine to say “I will pay for hair/makeup but please cover the tip”.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @Mademoiselle-G:  If they have already agreed to pay for the hair and make-up costs that would definitely include any necessary tipping. I don’t see why you would need to pay anything towards this if they have all agreed to pay individually.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2895 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @weatherbug:  I agree.  If I knew the price upfront and could still back out if it cost too much, I would have no problem with it.  I might even do my own research and maybe with another set of eyes someone will find something cheaper.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1768 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I told my maids the cost of the services and asked if they were interested. The end. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    865 posts
    Busy bee

    @Mademoiselle-G:  I’m not requiring them to have it done and they have all been fine with paying for it themselves.

    Then you’re good to go.  You’re not forcing anyone to get their hair or make up done.  I know you may feel a little bad, but if they choose to get hair/make up done, they can pay for it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it would be a really nice gesture to offer to pay and have them just cover tip, since it’s SO expensive!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @StL.Ashley:  Bingo.

    For my girls it went like this – If they didn’t want to cover the costs they didn’t have to. It was just thrown out there as something for them to consider IF they wanted it done professionally.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No you can’t really pay and be like “But can I have ten bucks to tip the stylist”. 

    If you want you COULD cover like, half, and they can cover the rest and I’d expect would then add tip on top of that. But since they all already decided to do hair, just tell them the price to expect. If they decide they can’t afford it then they don’t have to do it.

    Just as an aside, that IS really pricey… 85 bucks for a bridesmaid updo? yikes

    Post # 13
    Member
    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Mademoiselle-G:  I have alwasys been one of the brides in the minority in this case.

    They know the prices, if they want to get their hari and make up done they pay and tip themselves. If I am someones BM, I expect to pay for hair and makeup, its part of the role.

    I think anything the bride offers to cover is generous (again, as a BM i expect to pay for dress, shoes, hair, makeup, shower, bachelorette,), so no. I do not believe it is tacky if you are asking to split a cost

    Post # 14
    Member
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Mademoiselle-G:  have you looked into a beauty school? My God Daughter was married last weekend, and she did it there. They were super excited and did a stellar job! It was $20 for hair and $23 for makeup. They did a trial for the bride, and the same person did both the trial and day of. They were so excited, in fact, they closed the place down so they could focus on the bridal party. I had Panera bring pastries and coffee–she felt spoiled, and was on a tight budget as well. 🙂

     

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