Is it OK to delete/block exes even if they haven't done anything wrong?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Can you delete an ex who did nothing wrong?
    Yeah, it's your friend list, you don't need to justify this, just delete him. : (159 votes)
    96 %
    No, keep him on your list to be polite. : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Something else I wrote below : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He isn’t a part of your life anymore, no need to keep him around if you so choose.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    2368 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    You’re not obligated to keep him on your FB list.  Honestly, when I first got FB, I accepted everyone’s friend invites.  Then I realized that some of them were just people from my past that I didn’t actually actively LIKE.  And so I deleted them.  Not because I hated them or felt spiteful, it’s that if any one of them called up tomorrow and said “I’m in town, lets hang out!”, I’d politely decline.  No one’s on my friends list any more that I wouldn’t choose to spend time with, given the option.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It’s really up to you, if it bothers you enough then there is no reason to have him on your list, especially if you two dont ever talk. However, I always get hurt feelings when its done to me for no particular reason so theres that to think about. If youre never going to be friends with him again then why not delete him.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Bebealways:  I say do it if you want. I deleted a lady from church just because I found her 7th post in a row about what her grandkids were eating extremely annoying. Yeah, I could have just hid her posts. Yeah, I’m friends with her daughter and son in law so she probably sees me around. I don’t care. My friends list, my rules.

    If it makes you feel better, an ex friend deleted AND blocked me- she basically “doesn’t exist” on FB for me now. If we hadn’t fought I would have assumed she deleted her account. Unless he goes around asking mutual friends, he may just figure you decided to go offline. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I like going through my FB once a year and getting rid of people who I no longer care about.

    If I wouldn’t wish them a happy birthday, I de-friend. You might want to block him instead, so he doesn;t try friending you again!

    Post # 8
    Member
    7203 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Bebealways:  I’ve unfriended people (and had people unfriend me) simply because we’re not friends. Not enemies, simply not close enough friends to be on each other’s friends list. Unfriend him without a second thought.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Bebealways:  You have the right to delete anyone you want for any reason. It’s your FB. I have my exes blocked because I just don’t want them seeing what I’m up to, it’s not their business anymore. We’re not friends or enemies, I just prefer to be private about my life.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Bebealways:  I would absolutely delete him. You’ve moved all the way on and he’s not adding anything to your life besides the irritation you mentioned. No need to feel guilty on controlling your own friend list.

    Post # 11
    Member
    502 posts
    Busy bee

    Is it actually guilt that’s stopping you from unfriending him, or some other reason?

    I see no reason to not un-friend him. If you aren’t in touch and have no need to be, why remain Facebook friends? I wouldn’t even consider allowing someone access to my personal information out of guilt. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I go through and periodically delete people just because I don’t talk to them in person, and don’t talk to them on Facebook. I don’t notice when people delete me, so unless he stalks your profile daily or something I doubt he’d notice.

    Post # 16
    Member
    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - The Lodge at Mackenzie Place

    @Bebealways:  It is your friend list!  You can edit as you see fit, there is no Emily Post etiquette for social media Smile!

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