Post # 1
Another thread inspired me to ask this question.
I’m friends with an ex on facebook. We were engaged, he did some stuff, told some lies, blah blah blah, it ended. Not on idea terms, but honestly not on awful ones. Not bad enough to be like “NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN BLERG” angry kind of stuff.
He friended me on facebook and I accepted, kind of like “whatever.”
He messaged me a little congrats when I got married recently, and I just felt irritated for some reason.
I want to delete him, but I feel guilty about it – he hasn’t done anything wrong or bad to me. If anything he’s been nothing but polite. I just want him out 100% for stupid, personal, selfish, irrational reasons. I mean, I even hide his posts so it’s not like he’s popping up all over annoying me. I feel like such a bitch about this.
Is it okay to delete someone in this situation? Would you?
Post # 3
He isn’t a part of your life anymore, no need to keep him around if you so choose.
Post # 4
You’re not obligated to keep him on your FB list. Honestly, when I first got FB, I accepted everyone’s friend invites. Then I realized that some of them were just people from my past that I didn’t actually actively LIKE. And so I deleted them. Not because I hated them or felt spiteful, it’s that if any one of them called up tomorrow and said “I’m in town, lets hang out!”, I’d politely decline. No one’s on my friends list any more that I wouldn’t choose to spend time with, given the option.
Post # 5
It’s really up to you, if it bothers you enough then there is no reason to have him on your list, especially if you two dont ever talk. However, I always get hurt feelings when its done to me for no particular reason so theres that to think about. If youre never going to be friends with him again then why not delete him.
Post # 6
@Bebealways: I say do it if you want. I deleted a lady from church just because I found her 7th post in a row about what her grandkids were eating extremely annoying. Yeah, I could have just hid her posts. Yeah, I’m friends with her daughter and son in law so she probably sees me around. I don’t care. My friends list, my rules.
If it makes you feel better, an ex friend deleted AND blocked me- she basically “doesn’t exist” on FB for me now. If we hadn’t fought I would have assumed she deleted her account. Unless he goes around asking mutual friends, he may just figure you decided to go offline.
Post # 7
I like going through my FB once a year and getting rid of people who I no longer care about.
If I wouldn’t wish them a happy birthday, I de-friend. You might want to block him instead, so he doesn;t try friending you again!
Post # 8
@Bebealways: I’ve unfriended people (and had people unfriend me) simply because we’re not friends. Not enemies, simply not close enough friends to be on each other’s friends list. Unfriend him without a second thought.
Post # 9
@Bebealways: You have the right to delete anyone you want for any reason. It’s your FB. I have my exes blocked because I just don’t want them seeing what I’m up to, it’s not their business anymore. We’re not friends or enemies, I just prefer to be private about my life.
Post # 10
@Bebealways: I would absolutely delete him. You’ve moved all the way on and he’s not adding anything to your life besides the irritation you mentioned. No need to feel guilty on controlling your own friend list.
Post # 11
Is it actually guilt that’s stopping you from unfriending him, or some other reason?
I see no reason to not un-friend him. If you aren’t in touch and have no need to be, why remain Facebook friends? I wouldn’t even consider allowing someone access to my personal information out of guilt.
Post # 12
I go through and periodically delete people just because I don’t talk to them in person, and don’t talk to them on Facebook. I don’t notice when people delete me, so unless he stalks your profile daily or something I doubt he’d notice.
Post # 13
@winstonchurchill: Yeah, I always feel bad about unfriending anyone… most of the time I just unfollow or hide people. It’s kind of stupid but I feel really awkward about it for some reason. Like I’m personally insulting them or something, when really we’re just not close anymore. It’s dumb.
Post # 14
@Bebealways: I don’t keep exs on my friends list for this reason.
Post # 15
Somehow makes me think of this…
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2015 - The Lodge at Mackenzie Place
@Bebealways: It is your friend list! You can edit as you see fit, there is no Emily Post etiquette for social media !