Is It OK to Follow Up on No Show Guests?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you’re genuinely worried about them, yes. I think this is the case for most small, casual parties. 

If you want to yell at them because you paid $150 per plate as is the case for most weddings? Eh…give it a few weeks to cool down. 

Post # 6
Member
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I wouldn’t bother. They showed me how important I was to them by skipping my wedding, so they don’t warrant a phone call.

Post # 7
Member
6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t even look at the place cards to see who didn’t show up. I have a general idea but I didn’t want to know. Everyone who was important was there or called and gave me a very good reason why they weren’t there. As PPs said, the rest don’t warrant a phone call.

Post # 10
Member
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@weddingmaven:  I think it’s very rare that something actually happened, and a lot more likely that people are just inconsiderate. If something did happen, it is their obligation to let me (or one of my many family members) know. I am not chasing people at my wedding, lol.

Post # 11
Member
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

People get sick or things come up.  I understand getting worried about them but being upset makes no sense to me.  Calling to check up and or say you missed them is fine.

Post # 12
Member
2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I wouldn’t follow up with no show guests, if they couldn’t be bothered to even let me know that they won’t be there then I won’t waste my time on following up with them.

Post # 15
Member
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@weddingmaven:

 

What if it happened the day of and they have more important things to do than appologize to someone.  Like maybe Grandma fell down the stairs and no one is willing to take care of her or you get a call from your boss saying you’ve got to be at work in 5 or your fired.  I realize that to you and close relatives your day is like the best day ever but to every one else it’s a great occasion but not the end of the world.

Edit: You can get upset all you want.  I’m merely stating my opinion you don’t have to agree.

Post # 16
Member
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsBeck:  That sounds like a great plan! Okay I am staying far away from my card table! 🙂

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