Post # 1
I’m looking into buying gifts for my bridesmaids, and I really like the idea of getting initial necklaces.
It’s a super cute gift that I’d really like, but I’m slightly concerned that getting gifts that match (even if they’re personalized with the initials) would come across as though I hadn’t put much thought into them… (Even though I’ve spent hours looking through different options!)
I thought getting matching bridesmaids gifts was the way to go until Fiance started talking about personalized gifts for “his side” of the wedding party, which has kind of made me second-guess my idea.
What do you guys think about matching bridesmaid gifts?
Post # 3
Umm I don’t think its that big of a deal honestly. Matching is fine! My matron of honor gave all her attendents the exact same necklace and we all loved them equally.
Post # 4
I don’t think that’s a problem. I think as long as all the girls like their gift, then it doesn’t matter if they all got the same thing.
Post # 5
I think it depends entirely on whether or not the BM’s are into/wear necklaces. For me I would think – wow she obviously doesn’t know me very well- because I don’t wear jewellery at all.
I think since they are a thank you gift they should be personal to each BM- so if they all love necklaces it’s fine. Best advice I heard in relation to this topic is to shop likes it’s their birthday.
Post # 6
@j_jaye: I think it depends entirely on whether or not the BM’s are into/wear necklaces. For me I would think – wow she obviously doesn’t know me very well- because I don’t wear jewellery at all.
I agree with this. I also think that matching and non matching Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts are both equally acceptable. On the matching gifts, you risk seeming like you “didn’t put thought into it”, with non matching gifts, you risk people thinking some people got “better” gifts than others. So, really, in the end, as long as it’s something you think the BM(s) will like & you’re genuinely trying to show your appreciation, I think it doesn’t matter whether they match or not.
Post # 7
All my girls are getting matching bracelets from swarovski!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Usually, the gifts match. They don’t have to, but that’s kind of the norm.
Post # 9
My sis got us all matching heart necklaces when she was married, and so far, I have yet to be at a wedding where the party got different gifts.
Post # 10
I think as long as the gift isn’t totally wrong (I once got earrings, and you’d think a good friend would have known I dont have pierced ears) its fine for them to be the same or variations of the same is totally fine. For us the boys all got leathermans and the girls got pjs (for our pj party the night before), flats to change in to at the reception and a picture frame (al different torematch their style/home decor)
Post # 11
@les105: Thank you for your words. You and j_jaye definitely present some really good points to think about.
Thank you everyone else for your input!
Post # 12
@SapphireSun: Sorry to hear about that unfortunate earring situation!
Post # 13
I also want to do other things for them (e.g. take them for mani/pedis, a lunch…) and I’m going to sleep on the necklace idea a bit longer. Maybe I’ll do the necklaces (or something else) in conjunction with the other stuff.
Anyhow, this was helpful. I appreciate your feedback, guys!