(Closed) is it ok to have 3 maids of honor?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it ok to have 3 maids of honor?
    yes : (43 votes)
    56 %
    no : (34 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ultimately you will still have the decide the order in which they walk in, they order in which they sit or stand next to you, so having 3 maids of honor wont eliminate that fact that you still have to choose which one will do the Maid/Matron of Honor duties, such as hold your bouquet  when you need them to or be your first point of contact during the wedding if you need anything.

    Post # 4
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It’s your wedding, do what makes you happy. Our best friend is getting married later this year and he couldn’t decide who to make his best man so he made all 3 groomsmen (my Darling Husband is one of them) co-best men. It is a little awkward, because no one wants to be the alpha male and take over the bachelor party plans, but at the same time all 3 of them want to take the reins on it. I’d say so far, that is the only difficulties I’ve noticed.

    Also, my Darling Husband was a little hurt that he was not chosen to be the single best man. So I’m not sure if making them all co-best men spared any hurt feelings.

    Post # 5
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I have 2 sisters and we were each each other’s Maids of Honour. Can you work out this arrangement with them? And then have them pick who gets to be your Maid/Matron of Honor (think Friends when Monica got married)

    Post # 6
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    One of my friends had an Maid/Matron of Honor team with three girls on it. It worked just fine for her!

    Post # 7
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @bells:  this is what I was thinking.  Even if you have 3 you will still have to have a ‘grand supreme MoH’ because only one person can walk that spot, hold the bouquet, etc.  

    Post # 8
    12905 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why not make them all BMs and just not have an maid of honor?  It’ll get rid of the “elevated” title all together?

    Post # 9
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Why not? I’m having two matrons of honor. I think especially since this are your sisters, it’s perfectly fine. “MOH team”- I like it! And you could ask them to have different responsibilities- one holds your flowers, another signs the license, etc.

    Post # 10
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @smellyelly3:  I agree. No matter what you do, one maid of honor will have more honor than the rest, so I think it’s best to just choose one and be done with it. You can make it totally superficial and order them by height for the aesthetics of the ceremony and make the tallest one your MoH, or you can order them by age, or choose the one closest to your age, etc.

    Post # 11
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have 3 Maid/Matron of Honor and 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and it’s not causing problems.  I originally had 2/5 but my local Maid/Matron of Honor fell off the planet for a bit and my other Maid/Matron of Honor lived 1000 miles away so one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man really stepped up and did so much and I felt she needed to be honored for that.

    Post # 12
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Do what makes you happy.  I have two MOHs my best friend and my SIL. 

    Since the Best Man will be on the alter with my Fiance I will have my brother walk the two MOHs down the aisle.  I will have BFF stand next to me so she walks out with Best Man and SIL walks out with my brother her husband.  I knew bother girls live near me and will both be attending fittings, meetings, DIYing stuff with me.  So I didn’t think it fair to only give on credit.

    SIL and her sister also both had two MOHs.  Each other and their other sister.  And no problems there either. The sisters actually gave joint speaches both times and it was hilarious.  They took turns talking and it was adorable.

    Post # 13
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    It’s your day and you can choose who can stand with you. one, three, five? If they are all dear to you, I say Why not?

    Post # 14
    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    @abbie017:  This is exactly what I’m planning on doing. 

    Why make the others feel bad by picking your BEST best friend?  This is not kindergarten.

    Post # 15
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @abbie017:  I think this is a great idea. 

    Post # 16
    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I guess I don’t see the point… but if it makes you happy or works out, do it! 

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