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I guess I don't see why not. Do most of the guests know you are "already married"? Are you going on a honeymoon? If so, what if you registered at htt://www.honeyfund.com like Mrs. Cowboy Boots did! :) That sounds fun!
I think it's OK, but you may want to keep the registry smaller than you would normally. I only think this because I am assuming that you got some gifts when you married three years ago?
I am personally not a fan of honeymoon registery, home mortgage registries etc etc
So it's more like a vow renewal in a church as opposed to a wedding right? Or are you married by common law and therefore actually having a big celebration for the first time? I say do a registry if you want one.
I've heard good things abour honeyfund. Also, if you guys did not have anything before like an actual wedding or celebration then I do not see anything wrong with registering for gifts.
All of our guests know we are married. We have been for 3 years and have a beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
Ours was just a civil ceremony in court, just the two of us. We didn't have the big wedding celebration and have since decided to make it "right" and get married through the Catholic church.
I just thought it would be fun since I never got to have one, but it's not a big deal... I wanted opinions nonetheless. Thanks bees!
I say yes, but like a PP said, keep it small. Since there's not much you need, just keep it to one or two stores and make sure to have all price points available. Good luck with your planning!
otb- I was just going to do a few items and only one store. Probably Target, I love their stuff and it's not that expensive, imo... Thanks for posting!
I don't really think there are any rules about this. I would do one. Small and upgrade what you have!
I would do one. People will want to give you gifts to help you celebrate whether you register or not.
Go for it. As pinkmonkee said, people will give you gifts anyway - might as well make them what you actually want/need!
There will be some people who will expect you to register. I feel awkward about registering not because we are technically "married" but because my fiance and I have been living together for a couple of years.... and obviously functioning just fine without a nice set of dishes from BBB... but we are still going to register because "that's what you do" and of course we want nice stuff for entertaining. We will probably just avoid huge ticket items and register for a smaller amount of stuff so people have the option if they like to purchase from registries but I won't feel too "greedy". You might want to do something similar.
Congrats and have fun registering!!
noodlefish- That's exactly how I feel. I don't "need" anything in particular but I would love to have some proper place settings for entertaining and matching serveware/barware.
I think registering at Target for smaller, practical gifts would be very nice. I love buying things off of registries, and I love to give gifts, so if I were your friend I would want you to.
Honestly, I would say no. You chose to have a small civil ceremony the first time around without guests. This time, I would say that's fine to want the big wedding, but no to a registry. If people want to get you a gift they will, or they will give you money, but you've already been married a significant amount of time. This is really no different than a regular vow renewal, and most people would not expect a registry for a vow renewal.
On another note - I am also horribly opposed to the 'honeyfund'. people will give you money if they choose to - at that time you can put it towards your trip or whatever you like, but to specifically say "pay for my trip" rubs me the wrong way. (I however am one of those people who are firm believers that registries in general should NEVER be included on anything and should be strictly word of mouth - OLD SCHOOL ETIQUETTE)
Absolutely. People will want to give you gifts and will have trouble if there isn't a registry. However, if people already gave you gifts when you actually got married, they probably won't give you a gift again. Also, I would probably keep the registry more on the downlow...let your parents or other people who your guests won't mind asking know about it, but maybe not put it on a wedding website or anything so no one feels obliged to get a second gift.
I would probably have a smaller registry (especially since you probably already have all the basic things for a house already). We only registered for a few things since we already owned a house for 2 years and didn't need everything.
Hmm... I think it's probably fine. While you have already been married for awhile, your guests will likely buy you gifts and I think it's fine to have a small registry for some of those special items that you don't have.
I am also vehemently opposed to honeymoon registries. No matter how you package it, your guests are still just giving you money. I would rather give you a check than pretend that you're going to use my "gift" on "breakfast in bed" or "drinks by the pool."
I guess I'm kind of surprised about the opposition to honeymoon registries. Yeah, sometimes I just write a check to the bride and groom, but I love when friends have honeymoon registries. Yes, ultimately, it's a check, but it's really fun to get to pay for a specific part of a loved one's honeymoon. Plus, just b/c someone has a honeymoon registry does not at all mean that a guest can't just write a check if they want. I think honeymoon registries provide a fun and much more personal alternative to simply writing a check, and it's up to the guest to decide which option they want to do.
If you don't have a registry, you will get a ton of gifts you don't want and are not able to return anywhere because they don't know what you want. Not everyone gives cash so don't get your hopes up for that. If you don't have any household items to register for and you don't want to replace anything you already have, register for fun stuff. There is no law that says the registry has to be entirely practical household items. If you like games or other entertainment, register for those. Same for camping stuff if you're into that. What do you enjoy together?
I say definitely go ahead and make a registry--most people attending your wedding will probably want ideas for gifts, especially since they will know that you've lived together for 3 years and might not need the usual registry things. Also, my fiance and I have lived together for awhile too, so for our registry we ended up using myregistry.com so that we could register for activities to do together like cooking classes and such. We also made a cash fund for our honeymoon, since we didn't have all of the cookware and flatware and stuff people usually have on their registry. This might be good for you too if you are looking for something different.
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DH and I have been married for three years but never had an actual wedding. We are getting married by church in November and finally having our big wedding!
Soo, we really don't "need" anything but there are some things I would like to have like nice wine glasses, proper place settings, serving dishes/platters, etc. for entertaining.
Are we still "allowed" to create a registry or would it be tacky? Thoughts please.