(Closed) Is it ok to have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it ok to have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen?
    YES - you should pick people who you want to and not worry about numbers. : (49 votes)
    96 %
    NO - uneven parties look weird! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I totally agree with you, we had uneven numbers and it looked just fine! It would have been silly to pick someone Darling Husband is not even that close with to stand up there just for the sake of numbers – and it seems like many bees who do this end up having problems with that Groomsmen or Bridesmaid or Best Man and it’s like, well no duh, you’re not even that close to them, they’re just a spot filler!

    We just had the guys already up front and the girls walk up on their own, but on the way back one guy just walked with two girls. There was nothing weird about it!

    Post # 4
    45 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Agreed.  Choose who you want.  My nerdy husband was concerned about our wedding looking symetrical, but you don’t pick the wedding party for the sake of symetrical photos.

    Post # 5
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I almost did! As long as its not like 8 on one side and 3 on the other i think its all fine. 

    Post # 6
    23636 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s totally fine! 🙂 We had 6 and 5 and it worked out just fine!

    Post # 7
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m having an uneven amount! I was really worried about this! I’m having 5 men and seven women. I’m not worried anymore! I think it will turn out just fine! Just keep it the way it is! I think it will still be beautiful.!

    Post # 8
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We had an uneven number and no one in the bridal party cared at all – I don’t think any of our guests really even noticed! Except for the few who whistled when two girls walked back down the aisle with one of our married groomsmen :). I thought it was cute – he was all smiles the entire day. A wife and two ladies to escort!

    Post # 9
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    We had 5 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen.  My brothers were ushers so they were in pictures and my brothers and a close male friend danced with the extra bridesmaids.  It all worked out for us.

    ETA:  Walking down the aisle after the ceremony – we paired the Maid/Matron of Honor with the Bridesmaid or Best Man, a bridesmaid with the groomsmen and another bridesmaid with my brother/usher (paired based on height), and then my other brother had two bridesmaids, one on each arm.  It was actually cute!

    Post # 10
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

    Two of our groomsmen dropped out on us with no time for replacements — it worked out fine for how it looked! I wouldn’t worry about it.

    Post # 11
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Interesting question! This might be the solution to our dilemma as well. We would do 4 Groomsmen and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor + 2 bridesmaids, since FH is having trouble picking only 3.

    I’ve never been to a wedding, so I haven’t voted.

    Post # 12
    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Filling a roster & evening sides seems ridiculous for such a special, important occasion.  Having the people you want beside you is all that matters – regardless of how many people are on each side.  It’s not all about how anything looks to others.  It’s about the two of you!

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