Is it ok to have the reception and church a 40 minute drive apart?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is 40 minutes an ok distance?
    YES!!!!!!!!!!! : (15 votes)
    41 %
    NO! : (22 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    In my area, this can be kind of typical because I live in a small town area, and my church (in a town of 80 people) has no reception hall.  People drive anywhere from 15 to an hour to get to a reception hall from there. 

    Post # 4
    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    Eep. I feel like that is a bit much. Do you have to have your ceremony at your church then? I mean, I would grumble about such a far drive and might even think about going to either the ceremony or the reception.

    Post # 5
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’ve lived in a city where a 40 minute drive was very typical to get many places.  Large gaps between the ceremony & reception are also common.

    Post # 6
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    When I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding, the venue and church were about 30 minutes apart. It was also the day after a massive snow storm. I don’t think I heard anyone complaining about the driving time and I don’t recall anyone skipping the reception because of the drive.

    Post # 7
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Mine will be a 25min drive. It happens, especially when you live in a small town. 40 minutes would be the max for me though, but I’d still go to both!

    Post # 8
    5767 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Cut your photo time between ceremony and reception short. Very short. It’s not very nice to expect guests to drive 40 minutes and then still have to sit around doing nothing while they wait out the gap.

    Post # 9
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Sure. I live in NJ and this happens a lot.

    As long as you have a big enough “gap” between the two events, it should be OK. Make sure your venue is OK with accomodating early birds – last wedding I went to they wouldn’t let anyone who came early into the reception room and we wound up grabbing Panera to help tide us over while we waited.

    What I wasn’t OK with was the one time we went to a rehersal, then the rehersal dinner was a 40 minute drive away. Yeah, seriously.

    Post # 10
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @Horseradish:  +1

    It should be ok, just make sure that there’s a hotel nearby in case guests want to drink and for out of town guests so they don’t have to travel another 40 minutes to get back to the hotel.  

    Post # 11
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Our church is in a suburb about 40 minutes away from our reception site in downtown Houston.

    We’re having everyone stay downtown so that they’re only driving for the ceremony, and not the reception.

    Post # 13
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @sunelake27: How weddings typically happen in Toroto is the ceremony usually takes place early afternoon and then the bridal party takes pictures for a couple hours at a park or wherever and all the guests go home. Receptions usually start at 5:30, 6pm so that usually leaves a 3he gap in between. If this is the norm where you’re from, then I wouldnt worry too much about the distance because people live all over the place. However if they are going straight from the church to the ceremony, then I still woulnt worry about it lol 40mins isnt so bad! 

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