Post # 1
Okay so here is my situation, Im having 6 ( yes 6) bridesmaids based on the fact that my Fiance has 6 boys he wants in it and I want my bridal party to be even. Well I know for a fact 5 out of 6 of my bridesmaids, 3 are friends ive had forever and 2 are my FIs cousins (who are practically his sisters) thus comes the problem, I have one spot open, Im planning on asking my girls this week to be my bridesmaids and I still have this spot. There are a couple firends ive considered putting in the Last spot but non of them really seem right im just not as close to them etc. I am about to move to a new city to start medical school and figure that i will undoubtedly become close to someone while im there so im wondering if it would be weird to sort of hold my last Bridesmaid or Best Man spot to see if someone i meet becomes better friends to me. I figure as long as I ask them with ample time/ before i get my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses maybe with at least 6 months before the wedding it would be no big deal. Im just afraid it might seem strange to sort of be saving this last position until i figure it out. what do you think?
Post # 3
I don’t see a problem with it since your wedding isn’t until June of next year. In fact, after reading a number of posts on here that talk about BMs changing/becoming uncooperative 6 to 9 months out, it may be a good idea just to not ask anybody until the date gets a little closer.
Post # 4
I agree with not asking anyone yet. You have plenty of time.
Post # 5
yeah ive seen those too but im not worried, im definitely asking the other girls now, i want them involved in all the planning, plus ill be in medical school and planning my wedding from 700 miles away so ill really need their help during the planning process, but because of those uncooperative bridesmaid posts thats why Ive decided its best if im unsure about one spot to wait to give it to someone
Post # 6
I would wait since you do have time before choosing the last one. The only problem is that the people you meet might be too busy to go to your wedding (I have friends in med school who barely have any time off).
Post # 7
i think it’s fine to wait, but i wouldn’t count on just automatically finding a BFF in your new city and wanting her to be in your wedding. if you’re getting married next June, that leaves you about 7 months to find someone and become really close with them that you want them to stand up on the altar with you.
i moved cross country 2 years ago, and soon after met my fiance. it’s funny, i also have 6 bridesmaid–3 sisters, 3 friends. i’ve been close to the 3 friends for years, but dirfted away from one of them a little bit (even though we lived in the same city before i moved) BUT after i moved, she was the one who put in the effort to stay friends and keep up our relationship. shes in my wedding, but im not sure when i lived close to her, i would have asked her–it’s strange we are closer now than when i lived near her.
you can also have one less bridesmaid then groomsmen if you don’t feel close enough to anyone else to ask them–thats no big deal!
Post # 8
First, I know you said you want an even bridal party, but please know that it is perfectly fine to NOT have an even bridal party and I would hate for you to choose someone just to be a space filler (both because you don’t want to look back at your pictures and regret it years from now and because more than likely they will know they are a space filler).
With that said, I don’t see a problem “holding” a spot in case you do happen to become good friends with someone, I just personally wouldn’t stick just anyone in a Bridesmaid or Best Man position.
Hope this helps!
Post # 9
I think that holding a Bridesmaid or Best Man spot is a smart move. You’re right, you COULD become really close to someone, and wouldn’t they love a spot in your wedding! Smart idea!
Post # 10
I agree. I think you have plenty of time. Even if you don’t find someone at your new school, like you said one of your other “not as close” friends could step up to the plate also.