Post # 1
We really ought to order our invitations now… but we haven’t chosen our menu yet! We know that we’ll do chicken and beef options, plus vegetarian (I know, I know… boring. But we’ve got a gajillion picky eaters in the family, and we’re doing awesome, adventurous apps.) We’ve scheduled the tasting, which is in about 2 weeks, and that’s when we’ll pick the specific entrees.
Is it ok to just put "chicken" and "beef" on the invitations rather than "chicken marsala" or "coq au vin" or whatever? Or does that look t*cky and ch**p?
Post # 3
I don’t think it is necessarily "tacky", but I personally recommend waiting. I know you plan on having a chicken and beef option (as did we) but we made one of our dishes a combo plate.
But I guess it does depend on how long your invitations will take. Will 2 weeks make a big difference for you? If so, then just go ahead and order. If not, then wait.
Post # 4
I think LittleBear makes an excellent point. You don’t really know for sure what you’ll pick until you’ve had the tasting. If you are offering an option, it’s also good to be more specific – what if you pick a dish that is primarily chicken, but includes something that some people might be allergic to (Nuts? Shellfish?)? They would want to know more details about the dish so that they could choose carefully. If you have any kosher friends, they can’t have meat and dairy together, so again, if either dish has cheese or a cheesy sauce, that would be a no-go area. If you can wait at all, I would. Good luck!
Post # 5
IF you need to send out invites now, it is perfectly fine to put chicken or beef. I have seen people do from the sea, from the land, or put a little line drawing of a cow or a chicken, regardless if they know if the meal was chicken marsala or not. It is not tacky, it is not cheap. Have fun at the tasting too!!!
Post # 6
We’ve already done our tasting, but I still think we will just write "chicken" or "beef" because it fits on the RSVP card a whole lot easier. 🙂
Post # 7
definitely you can jsut use the generic meal selections. Most people who already have their menu worked out simply put "beef" "chicken" "fish" etc.
Pictures/icons of the food instead of words are fun options too!
Post # 8
Because we hadn’t finalized our menu, I just put icons there. I think you’re referring to my response here where I laughed at her quoting the menu. I just meant that since they were having such a lavish wedding with letterpress invites and upscale everything, it was funny they just wrote "chicken" and "beef." I didn’t mean that it was totally taboo! Besides, most guests don’t know the difference between coq au vin and marsala. They just see it’s chicken. So if you want to finalize your invites, go for it! (Or just use icons, it’s the easy way out…)
Post # 9
I actually love the icons/ pictures! It always cracks me up for some reason! Go with whatever you feel comfortable with! We did a combo, so we only had the option of whether they wanted a vegetarian fare, otherwise you got a trio of lobster tail, steak, & fish =)
Post # 10
The only reason I would say to put the full entree is because of food allergies. My FI is VERY allergic to peanuts so if anything had pesto in it he would die. This info would be helpful before the wedding-I’m sure that these venues can accomidate this type of thing-but it might save a guest a lot of worrying.
Post # 11
Could you just double check with the caterer about your options that might have nuts or seafood in them? (Or omit the nuts if nut allergies are a problem with your guests?) Then you could feel free to put just chicken or beef.
I think it would be nice to give the preparation of the meat, but not necessary, particularly if you are in a time crunch.
Post # 12
As a guest I like to have a general idea of the way the food will be cooked. For example, an invite I just got was Prime Rib or Parmesan Crusted Chicken. I went with the Prime Rib because I would pref that over the Parmesan Chicken. However, if it were Chicken with Hollandaise or Bruschetta Chicken, its likely I would order that instead of the steak.
But that’s just me lol.
Post # 13
That’s what I put down – we kept it general so that if we didn’t like the chicken we tasted we could choose a different chicken entree. Don’t forget to include vegetarian option…
Post # 14
Maybe I’m missing the response where someone suggested this…but we had "chicken," "beef," "fish," and "vegan" on our RSVP….and then an insert that directed people towards our wedding website to find out more about "what will be on the menu at the reception."
The insert also told people hotel/travel information was on the website, etc. We figured this wasn’t something our older guests would necessarily think to check.
But on the website we had all the details of sauces, side vegetables, etc. I think if someone is very allergic to something they’ll hopefully notify the host (who will get the info to the caterer). Just because a specific item description doesn’t list nuts…there’s no telling if it has been contaminated during preparation.
Post # 15
Thanks so much everyone! We’re waiting until after the tasting to order the invitations so we can put the actual names of the dishes on them… We can afford the extra few days. Added bonus: perhaps a few non-vegetarian guests will decide they’re interested in the vegetarian pasta dish (probably smoked mozzarella ravioli with tomato basil sauce), which would save us a little cash.
@mightysapphire: Yes, I saw your post on that thread and got worried that there was some etiquette/norm I didn’t know. (I have a lot of etiquette issues recently that Emily Post doesn’t help with. I googled for like an hour to try to figure out what to say to people who say "4:30 is a strange time for a wedding… I guess I have to wear a short dress?")
@MerRhosyn: BRILLIANT! I hadn’t thought to put menu information on the website! We’ll put the details up there… and possibly a "sneak peek" of our apps 🙂