Is it okay not to have a MOH?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I have two MOHs and one bridesmaid.  Do whatever you want, having no MOH is okay too! It’s YOUR wedding! 

Post # 4
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been in 2 weddings that didn’t have an MOH and it worked out fine. I would try to divy up the MOH duties so that everyone gets to participate. Make sure they all exchange emails so that they can coordinate who is going to be responsible for what. This is the tricky part that may require some sly nudges from you. For the first bride we all told her that we’d be happy to do the shower/bachelorette but since there was no MOH we didn’t want to step on each other’s toes so nobody was really taking charge. Finally the bride said A- why don’t you be in charge of shower and B – why don’t you be in chage of the bachelorette and get help from the others. And that’s what happened and it was easy and fun for everyone.

Post # 5
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it is FINE 🙂 I am having just an MOH and that’s it. You can do whatever you want. I don’t think your BMs will mind that either.

Cute idea with the ring pops by the way!

Post # 10
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram's Garden

I chose to go with no MOH in favor of 5 BMs working together!  I found in weddings I’ve been in in the past, there was always some kind of animosity brewing in the hierarchy.. and I also didn’t feel strongly about selecting one MOH.  I think it’s a great way to do it, and so far, so good on my end!  My girls even remarked that they like this MUCH more than the traditional hierarchy. 

Good Luck! <3

Post # 11
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

It is completely fine to not have a MOH

Post # 12
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Totally fine. I’m having two Maids of Honor (my bff and my sister) and a Matron of Honor (my bff who’s married and a mom). It’s your wedding, you can do what you want!

Post # 13
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Cluelessbride10:  I’m not having one! 🙂 I don’t plan on having my bridesmaids do a whole lot for me though, really they’re just coming along for the fun stuff (dress shopping etc) and taking part in the festivities and then standing next to me on the day!

I have 4 BM’s and didn’t want to pick one above the others, I know if/when I do need help they’ll all be there for anyway so i’m not fussed about having one in particular to do it all! If you need to coordinate who will do what, maybe just have a girls night with them all, go through what needs to be done and ask who is happy to do what! 🙂

Post # 15
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m in a similar situation – I have two very good friends and my cousin in my bridal party, and I just can’t choose a single MOH.  I’m ossilating between having two MOHs or having none at all. 

Post # 16
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

I too am trying to decide on an MOH.  I kind of want my brother to be but everyone seems to think this is ridiculous.  ( He is my only sibling) He wouldn’t have to do anything except maybe a speech at the wedding.  

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