Is it okay to ask for your bouquet back after the toss?

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve seen here that lots of bees do a “toss bouquet” you can make one slightly smaller, or maybe just gather some roses with a ribbon. I’ve seen brides throwing one rose too!

I wouldn’t ask for it back though hehe.

Post # 4
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@DesertLady:  It would be rude to ask for it back.  Get a cheap toss bouquet and hold onto your heirloom bouquet.  You could even make one using wildflowers or a bunch from the local grocery store.

Post # 5
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@DesertLady:   Get a toss bouquet.  🙂  

Post # 6
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’re suppose to have a seperate toss bouquet. My florist is doing one for like $10.

Post # 7
830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@DesertLady:  Have you thought about getting a “throw bouquet”? So you actually get to keep yours, but throw a smaller one for someone else to keep?

Or you could just throw one of your bridesmaid’s bouquets, if you’re having them. I don’t see why that wouldn’t work.

I caught the bouquet at a wedding once. I took it home! It survived the plane ride in my suitcase (LOL) but once I put it in water it did perk up for a few days… but then it just got so ratty to the point where I had to chuck it 😛

Post # 8
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@DesertLady:  You could make a smaller toss bouquet or use one of the BM’s. I was MOH and the bride tossed mine so that she could keep hers.

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

It would be dangerous to throw a brooch bouquet.  Imagine gettng smoked in the face with that thing!  as PPs have said, get or make a cheap toss bouquet that you don’t mind parting with. 

Post # 10
2102 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@DesertLady:  I had a brooch bouquet too!

but I just threw one of the BM’s bouquets cuz they were simple and no one minded!

Post # 11
6785 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

Yep, get a second “toss bouquet” and let her keep it. Also, keep it lightweight. Haha my brooch bouquet would seriously knock a B out!

Post # 12
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Throwing a brooch bouquet is a crazy idea not to mention dangerous. Add to it that yes it is a touch rude to ask for the thrown bouquet back.

I would have to agree with the PP that you need a toss bouquet. That is what I had and it didn’t cost more than a couple bucks. If you want to make it yourself just go to a florist and grab a few stems to put together or have them do it.

Post # 13
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@DesertLady:  I have caught three bouquets and I’ve always asked the bride whether she wanted to have her bouquet back. (she never did though.) if the bride had come to me and asked to have it back, I would have totally understood and not thought twice about it. For me as a guest / single lady, this is just about the symbolism and hopefully good luck. As the bride, it really is about the bouquet, so if I am lucky enough to catch it I sure don’t mind not keeping it. 

I wouldn’t spend any extra money on a different bouquet. Especially if you’re DIYing such a fancy bouquet, it should be quite clear that you’d wanna have that back. But then I consider myself to be less “etiquette” and more “common sense” if that makes sense? 

Post # 14
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@DesertLady:  Just get a cheap toss bouquet. At the weddings I’ve been to/in, the bride buys a 2nd silk bouquet (even if she had real flowers) from a craft store or something. The one I tossed was, like, $12 (as opposed to $40 for my silk one that I walked down the aisle with/kept.

Plus I think if you hurled a brooch bouquet, someone could get hurt lol

Post # 16
37 posts

My best friend and I are each others MOH’s this year in our upcoming weddings. We agreed to give up each other’s bouquets for the bride to toss. Also, my florist said she’d make a complimentary one out of left over bouquet flowers. There’s 2 options.

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