Is it okay to ask someone why you were not hired?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s a completely appropriate question and most employers are willing to have a conversation with you about it. It also helps build rapport, in case another job comes up that you’re better suited for.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@tmsing:  It wouldn’t put me off at all. 🙂  I think that you asking that question would show how interested you are in the position, as well as desire to improve.  Neither of those are bad things. 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@tmsing:  I absolutely ask for feedback after an interview where I didn’t get the position and once when I did get it! It can be hard to ask for constructive criticism but I’ve always found it helpful.  A couple of times I cried after I got off the phone because I was so disappointed, but I learned more about myself and what to do better the next time.  I’ve had one employer tell me I was their #2 choice as their #1 choice was an internal applicant – that was good to know!

I would follow up and ask if the employer has made a hiring decision, and if they have, ask if you’d be able to schedule a few minutes to get some feedback on how you did so you can improve the next time.

🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@tmsing:  Hmm tough one. 

Initially, I was thinking, go ahead and ask, but then I thought about it…

It may be too late now as they’ve probably moved on to other things and you are no longer fresh on their minds.  It won’t be helpful for you and may put them in an awkward position if they can’t provide you with what you’re looking for.

This may be a do-it-next-time scenario.

🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d say it is too late now if it has been a month, but next time (which hopefully next time is the real deal right!!?) ask them. It doesn’t hurt, and I bet you will get a lot of good feedback.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve wondered this myself. Since it’s been a month, it’s probably too late but it’s nice to see that other’s feel like it can’t hurt. So…next time, do it. Except, even better, hopefully next time you’ll get a great job and it won’t even be a concern. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I don’t ask why didn’t I get the job. The simple answer to that is that I wasn’t as good as the applicant they hired. Rather, I ask what I could have done, or could do in the future, to make myself a more appealing candidate for that position. That’s when they can be particular about something on your resume, a specific lack of experience, or the impression given in the interview, which are the details you’re really after in that situation.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

You totally can do this. I just sat on an interview committee today for an open teaching position at my school. We all have the list of questions, we have to write strengths and weaknesses, note attire, personality, etc just in the off chance that someone DOES call and wants to know. All of our paper work is filled away for years so you could call the school 5 years after your interview and find out what you did wrong.

 

You should call, and DO NOT accept no for an answer 🙂

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