Post # 1
I was originally eloping in Paris in June, but my boyfriend spilled the beans when he was drinking this past weekend (he was pretty excited, so I couldn’t even be mad haha), and it turns out quite a few people want to come. Our thoughts are any one willing to pay to go to paris, is more than invited. So We’ll probably send everyone a save the date and whoever comes comes. That being said, I’ve had a few friends ask if we’re having a reception back home afterwards… I don’t want to. Part of the reason we were originially eloping was to avoid having a wedding, and being a wedding photographer I know I wouldn’t be able to half ass anything so I wan’t to avoid it. I would however, like to have an engagement party.. is that a big no no?
Post # 3
@sillygoat: You only invite people to pre-wedding parties who are also going to be invited to the wedding itself. So, if you’re truely inviting “whoever wants to make it to Paris”, then sure, I guess you could have an engagement party. But if you’re really not wanting/expecting a wedding with guests, no an engagement party is not appropriate.
Post # 4
I think you can have whatever you want. Personally, knowing your situation, I wouldnt go unless you were a very close friend or family member.
Post # 5
@sillygoat: I’m usually against engagement parties because I feel like couples usually have enough festivities as it is. But in your case, I think it is the perfect solution! You should absolutely do it. If people can’t make it to Paris this will give them the opportunity to celebrate with you.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine to have a get-together, but I wouldn’t call it an engagement party!
Post # 7
@MexiPino: I originally thought no one would come to Paris, so it was going to be an elopement but since people genuinely want to come, I want them to be there. I just thought having a party would be nice to see everyone, and for everyone going to mingle with eachother.
@gelaine22: I figured that would be who’d show up, which is perfectly fine with me!
@Sunsetmrs13: That’s what I was thinking!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
If you are inviting people to your wedding, even if you don’t expect them to come, it’s totally fine to invite those same people to an engagement party. The only big faux pas is inviting people to the engagement party who you aren’t inviting to the wedding (whether you think they will come or not).