Post # 1
So I just found out that our reception hall is going to be about $1,000 more than I had orginally budgeted due to food prices going up and a couple other things. I plan on inviting about 14 co-workers and to avoid any awkwardness I decided a long time ago to just invite them all becuase we’re kind of a close-knit team. A few of them are married, a few of them are in serious relationships and I know a some of their SO but there’s about 5 of them that are single. I don’t really want to pay for them to bring some random person when they’re going to know a large group of people there already.
Is it okay to invite them with a guest if they’re married and/or in a serious relationship and invite the others without?
Should I invite them all with a guest knowing they won’t all come and they won’t all neccessarly bring a guest?
Invite them all without a guest?
I know that etiquette rules will say to invite them all with a guest but I also know etiquette rules have changed a lot since the days of Emily Post…
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
You don’t have to invite them all with a guest. Invite those that are social units with their SOs (spouses and serious partners), and those that are single without. It’s pretty common. This isn’t date night. 🙂
Post # 4
Etiquette rules do not dictate that you must include a date. You should definitely invite established couples (married or not), but otherwise, you can invite them alone.
Post # 5
i would have them with guest… i just asked my mother about my cousin whose 30 ive never met a single bf and dont think she still has one but still give her the option to bring a guest and 2 co-workers i hope will actually include their guest with two other co-workers but i cant ask i just hope they do bc they also are not in a serious relationship.
Post # 6
I have a few co-workers who are married, their spouses are getting an invite. I have one co-worker who is in a relationship, her SO gets an invite. The other 4 are single and I’m inviting them all solo. They are all excited to hang out with each other, so I figure they won’t be lonely. One of the single co-workers is on match.com and she goes on tons of dates each week, I thought about giving her a +1 but decided against it. I had to draw the line somewhere. Hope this helps 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions!
Post # 8
I would limit the +1’s to serious relationships…married, engaged, or significant others. I’m sure that your team would understand.
Post # 9
Seeing as there are 5 single co-workers and a lot of other co-workers that they will know – go with no guests. They will have plently of other people to talk to.
Many people, when invited with a plus 1, seek to find a plus 1.
Post # 10
I think its fine as long as you have a clear cut off when deciding who gets a date, and who does not. We did a guest when the person was married, engaged, living together or in a serious relationship (exclusive I guess?). Pretty much anyone we could get a specific name for instead of just having a “+1”. Just don’t be like “Oh susi can bring a random +1 but you can’t”
Post # 11
No need to invite guest to all!!! If they have an ounce of class, they’ll understand. Don’t worry about it!!
Post # 12
I think TealaB put it well. Have a clear set of conditions or circumstances (married, engaged, serious relationship) where co-workers can bring a guest. Everyone else can just come and enjoy the wonderful party you are throwing!!
Post # 13
I would invite all the marrieds/couplesthat you know of and leave the single people as is, since you know there will be plenty of people they already know to sit/talk with.