Post # 1
FH and I were originally going to offer Chicken, Beef or Vegetarian options to our guests but the beef entree is $12pp more than the chicken. The venue suggests that about 40% will pick beef which means it could be an extra $500 – i know this doesn’t seem like a lot but we’re trying to save money so we can afford to do other things we want for our guests (open bar, late night table, day after brunch…)
We were thinking that the RSVP cards would just have a line asking for dietary restrictions where people can indicate if they’re vegetarian, gluten free etc…and not put the choice on the card? Is this okay?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
No need to put chicken or vegetarian on the RSVP card. People will either get the meat option or the vegetarian option. Unless the venue needs a headcount of orders prior to the wedding, there is no need to add this information to the RSVP card.
Post # 4
Definitely just do chicken (and veggie/gluten restrictions!) I think that would be great… Especially if it means your guests get an extra-long bar and a late-night table!
Man, your wedding sounds AWESOME!
Post # 5
Are you having a plated dinner? If you are, you will need some way to denote what your guests chose. You would need to include it on your RSVP card so you can give final counts to the caterer. The cater is not going to be able to plan for enough of each kind. If you are doing buffet or family style, no need to put a choice on the RSVP card.
Post # 6
As long as there’s a veggie/allergen free option and one other option, it sounds good to me!
Post # 7
Most caterers (in my area) lately do not need a count of who wants what so you dont need to put it on the RSVP cards.
Post # 8
Well my aunt is allergic to poultry so if I was to only provide chicken and vegetarian option, she would be forced to eat no meat. I would feel bad. However, it isn’t common to know someone with a poultry allergy so you will probably be just fine.
Post # 9
I think it depends on how the chicken is prepared too. I went to a wedding last year where there was no meal choice on the RSVP card, so we assumed it would be a buffet. Everyone received the same plate of food — chicken covered in bacon and mashed potato topped with bacon. Haha, I bet they were hoping that all of their guests would like bacon!
Post # 11
we are doing plated and i just figured that unless someone puts down a restriction then they get chicken, if someone’s vegetarian they’d write it in as a restriction right (then again, judging by all the rsvp drama threads maybe i’m giving people too much credit).
The chicken is realtively simple, it’s not stuffed or anthing like that – I think it’s Lemon Peppercorn on the proposal (but we may adjust that).
Post # 12
@BrandNewBride: thanks 🙂
we’re hoping it will be. A significant number of our guests will be coming from out of province so we really want to appreciate our guests for travelling so far. We’re trying to find ways to save money without being cheap.
Our open bar will probably be limited to Beer and Wine and maybe a signature cocktail, we’re having a cocktail hour and hopefully a late night – although I have to talk to the venue, I’m not keen on the options they gave us in the proposal. We’re providing transportation from our recommended hotel to the venue – the hotel we’re suggesting is about 30 minutes from the hotel even through there are several closer but FH works for the hotel we’re suggesting so we can get our guests a REALLY good rate (like $70 a night instead of $130 a night downtown) that’s also how we’ll be able to do the day after brunch – it’ll be at the same hotel FH works at.
Post # 13
People sometimes have unrealistic expectations of weddings. I attend many banquets for charities, business etc and we are NEVER offered a choice of entreee. You take what you get, unless you specifically contact them re allergies and other dietary restrictions.
If your caterer requires numbers, I would put a line that says
You can then see what these are and decide whether or not you will accomodate.
Certainly most of us would accomodate vegetarians, allergies etc, but you will also likely get other requests that are just plain demanding, like- only eat fillet of beef. You do not have to accomodate those requests.
Post # 14
We only served salmon, chicken, and a vegetarian option at our wedding and people loved the food! To be fair, my husband and I are vegetarian, so most people weren’t expecting a steak dinner at our reception!
Post # 15
Don’t put anything on the RSVP card. Why? Cause people can’t eat red meat for one night? Tons of people eat chicken. And it will kill no one to eat vegetarian one night. Of course it’s fine.