Is it okay to not purchase anything off the baby registry?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@sarabee:  Her big ticket items are not your responsibility. She’ll get the most use out of necessities as you described. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@sarabee:  I don’t think it’s terrible at all.  Buy here some diapers and wipes in the next size up from newborn.  She may not appreciate them right away but that one night when she discovers the newborn sizes no longer fit, she will be extremely thankful to have the next size up there and ready to use.  Your basket idea sounds great.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

It’s totally fine. Gifts really aren’t necessary. and you’re still showing your support. All those things you listed are needs, and I think that’s perfectly okay. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If I’m ever in a situation where the registry is too pricey for me I usually do a giftcard in an amount I can afford and a pack of diapers if I know they are going disposable or a cheap cute onesie if I’m not sure.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

It’s fine. Get her something you can afford. It’s not your responsibility to buy things for her family anyway, so don’t feel bad about not being able to get something off of the registry. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@sarabee:  I think your basket gift sounds lovely. It’s sweet that you want to help her out, but as a PP said that is not your responsibility. You can’t get behind on your bills to get your friend a stroller; as much as you may want to.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s totally fine! When I was in school I usually made baskets (like what you’re doing) because I could not afford to spend a lot of money either. People appreciate those necessities!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Usually expensive items on a baby registry are there so the coworker shower can pool contributions and buy them.  They aren’t all things she expects from friends.  Plus unpurchased registry items get a discount, so she’s likely just including them so she can buy them later for less.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

It’s perfectly ok. Your gift sounds great!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Totally fine. If (for whatever reason) she doesnt like what you give her, it’s her own “fault” for not including cheaper things on the registry.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

A lot of people make “diaper cakes.”  They’re really cure, just be sure the couple is going disposable! 

If not, I’m sure there are tutorials for the same idea with socks, hats, onsies, and other items.  Registries are like wishlists, and if you don’t buy anything off of it, it’s still a gift, and she’ll (should) be grateful.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sarabee:  7.5 months preggo here and your gift sounds fantastic.  I appreciate gifts given from the registry, but I also appreciate others giving me essentials (like wipes and diapers), things they make, or just items they can afford.  Don’t beat yourself up; you are very thoughtful just getting ANY gift for your friend. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s great!

The only time I wouldn’t go off registry is if you’re getting something really unusual or frivolous or decorative (applies to weddings more) that they didn’t specifically ask for.  No one wants a gift they would never use or think is ugly.

I would maybe look for some lists on the most-used baby items and try to stock up on some of those essentials (or make sure what you’re planning is listed on there!) for your gift!

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sarabee:  she needs a million of search of the little things you mentioned but as a new mom she doesn’t realize they are more important than jumpers and stuff. I say absolutely do your idea. I’m broke and have gone to 6 baby showed in the past 8 months. I buy three yards of fabric on sale and make a receiving blanket, burp cloths and bibs for each baby. No big ticket items from me ever!

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