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Is it okay to send a "Don't forget to buy your dress" text to my bridesmaids?

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    UpstateCait    October 7, 2011   Upstate, NY

    I've asked my bridesmaids to have their dresses purchased by the first week of June and as far as I know, neither have done it. Not a big deal, I figured they'd wait till the last minute anyway but now that we're coming up on the deadline I'm starting to stress a bit. Is it acceptable to send a "Don't forget to order your dress" text or do I have to wait until they're officially "past due"?

     
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    reginaphalange    March 10, 2012   Brooklyn

    I wouldn't wait till they're "past due."  I would just send a casual text along the lines of a "Hey, I'm just wondering if you've ordered your dress yet" kind of thing.  Just don't remind them outright by saying "don't forget."

    I'm sure they'll see through it, but I also think they will understand that you're just making sure everything is moving along smoothly.

     
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    mrsmurraytobe    June 11, 2011   Atlanta

    Absolutely it's okay!

     
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    nqz100    September 10, 2011  

    I think it's fine. I wouldn't think much of it if I were a BM and got a text like that; I would just think it's a nice reminder.

     
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    thewheelsonthebus    June 25, 2011  

    Don't wait!  Do it do it do it do it do it.

    (says the bride with the bridesmaid who told me not once, but twice that she had a dress...when she really didn't)

    :)

     
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    Emilylhenderson    September 10, 2011   wedding in NY living in PA

    Maybe instead of a "don't forget" text you could say "let me know when you've placed your dress order" text

     
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    jedeve    August 14, 2010   Montana

    I'd prefer e-mail over text personally, but I don't think that's what you're asking!

     
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    amyisnice    September 18, 2011   Austin

    Sure! They are your besties after all! :-)

     
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    S.H.    December 2011  

    I'm wondering about this too! I didn't give them a deadline, but I'm thinking I'll email them in a couple of weeks to give them a few updates on wedding details and also ask them to order soon. I'm trying to be as laid back as possible about the whole wedding, but I feel like it's best to remind them soon so that it doesn't become a major issue in August/September!

     
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    FutureHarp    November 11, 2011   Katy, TX

    haha...I tricked my bridesmaids...lets go on an "outing" and I took them to the dress store lol classic!! I required them to get it the last part of May to give them time to get it altered if needed.

     
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    amnystik    April 9, 2011   Texas

    YES!!!

    I sent multiple txts throughout planning to both BM & GM... just deadline reminders.

    As the deadlines approached I'd send a "Just wanted to check txt"

    Most of everything had to be ordered so we had to have them ordered by certain times to have them in... ie The Guys shoes could take up to 8 weeks... so deadline to order was 12 weeks out. They were all REALLY glad they didn't have to really think about it. lol

    They were all incredibly appreciative of them and they didn't think it was overbearing or pushy in any way. =)

     
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    Lauren10.8.11    October 8, 2011   Monroe, MI

    I was wondering this too! Only 2 of mine have, and I got things squared away at the shop and I even let them know how long it would take. Hmm

     
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    UpstateCait    October 7, 2011   Upstate, NY

    @jedeve: One of my bridesmaids doesn't have a computer or a smart phone so unless I want to call her, text it is. She's also the one that I'm the most concerned about. 

    @reginaphalange: & @Emilylhenderson: Good call. "Don't forget..." does seem a little abrasive. 

    @thewheelsonthebus: Damn bridesmaids! =)

     
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    sonj818    October 29, 2011   NorCal

    I'd send a mass email so that no one feels singled out, or word the text letting them know that it was a mass text. :)  But no, no problem to remind them!

    If you feel like it, you can call the salon and see who has ordered.

     
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    sheebsw    May 7, 2011   North Carolina

    Yep!  Text them or email them!  I did....because you will be surprised at how they will forget to order their dresses....

     

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