Post # 1
I’ve asked my bridesmaids to have their dresses purchased by the first week of June and as far as I know, neither have done it. Not a big deal, I figured they’d wait till the last minute anyway but now that we’re coming up on the deadline I’m starting to stress a bit. Is it acceptable to send a “Don’t forget to order your dress” text or do I have to wait until they’re officially “past due”?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t wait till they’re “past due.” I would just send a casual text along the lines of a “Hey, I’m just wondering if you’ve ordered your dress yet” kind of thing. Just don’t remind them outright by saying “don’t forget.”
I’m sure they’ll see through it, but I also think they will understand that you’re just making sure everything is moving along smoothly.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine. I wouldn’t think much of it if I were a BM and got a text like that; I would just think it’s a nice reminder.
Post # 6
Don’t wait! Do it do it do it do it do it.
(says the bride with the bridesmaid who told me not once, but twice that she had a dress…when she really didn’t)
Post # 7
Maybe instead of a “don’t forget” text you could say “let me know when you’ve placed your dress order” text
Post # 8
I’d prefer e-mail over text personally, but I don’t think that’s what you’re asking!
Post # 9
Sure! They are your besties after all! 🙂
Post # 10
I’m wondering about this too! I didn’t give them a deadline, but I’m thinking I’ll email them in a couple of weeks to give them a few updates on wedding details and also ask them to order soon. I’m trying to be as laid back as possible about the whole wedding, but I feel like it’s best to remind them soon so that it doesn’t become a major issue in August/September!
Post # 10
haha…I tricked my bridesmaids…lets go on an “outing” and I took them to the dress store lol classic!! I required them to get it the last part of May to give them time to get it altered if needed.
Post # 11
I sent multiple txts throughout planning to both BM & GM… just deadline reminders.
As the deadlines approached I’d send a “Just wanted to check txt”
Most of everything had to be ordered so we had to have them ordered by certain times to have them in… ie The Guys shoes could take up to 8 weeks… so deadline to order was 12 weeks out. They were all REALLY glad they didn’t have to really think about it. lol
They were all incredibly appreciative of them and they didn’t think it was overbearing or pushy in any way. =)
Post # 12
I was wondering this too! Only 2 of mine have, and I got things squared away at the shop and I even let them know how long it would take. Hmm
Post # 13
@jedeve: One of my bridesmaids doesn’t have a computer or a smart phone so unless I want to call her, text it is. She’s also the one that I’m the most concerned about.
@reginaphalange: & @Emilylhenderson: Good call. “Don’t forget…” does seem a little abrasive.
@thewheelsonthebus: Damn bridesmaids! =)
Post # 14
I’d send a mass email so that no one feels singled out, or word the text letting them know that it was a mass text. 🙂 But no, no problem to remind them!
If you feel like it, you can call the salon and see who has ordered.
Post # 15
Yep! Text them or email them! I did….because you will be surprised at how they will forget to order their dresses….