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I don't think you are supposed to throw your own shower, but you could host a pre-weddding tea there if you wanted.
If you don't need gifts, just have whoever hosts your shower put a "no gifts please" clause on the invite. YOu can ask guests to bring a favorite recipe or to write down a piece of marital advice instead, and then have fun at the party reading the advice.
I think throwing your own shower is a little gift grabby.
However, a bridesmaid's luncheon with the addition of some close family members sounds more like what you're planning. I think if you're taking them out for high tea to thank them for their support that's perfectly fine.
If you don't want gifts, I wouldn't call it a shower. The point of a Bridal Shower is to 'shower' the couple with gifts.
I would say no. These things are done by your MOH or relatives on either side of the families.
You could do the tea thing with your bridemaids and others if you want a few days before the wedding. I plan on taking my girls out for lunch before the big day.
I am wanting to do this instead of a Bachelorette Party because I am not into go to bars. I just want to get together with everyone and celebrate. I don't really need anything for gifts, so that is why I think I should call it a Bridal Party.
Yeah this is considered a gift grab. Why don't you let your MOH know about the tea room and your idea, i'm sure she'd think that was helpful. Or talk to your relatives and see if they aren't already working on something for you. If not suggest the tea room.
I think it is fine if you indicate on the invitation that you don't want them to bring gifts, or ask for something like a recipe in lieu of gifts. Also I would call it something else, like perhaps just a bridal tea.
@AlishaKay: You can have a bachelorette and not go to bars. We did a hiking trip for mine!
@HisIrishPrincess: Yeah, I changed the heading because shower is not what I was meaning and wasn't sure what to call it. I am having very few BMS. My MOH, mother and I would plan everything. And my MOH or mom would send out the invites.
I voted no because I thought you were talking about a shower, but a bridal party tea or something is fine!
@crayfish: Okay, thanks. I just noticed that on all of the Tea Houses, they called it Bridal Party.
@JenniBride: Okay, thanks! Yeah, I really am not wanting a shower.
Don't throw your own shower. Someone will do it for you. You can have a tea party (you know what I mean) for your bridal party and maybe your mom, MIL, SIL, etc. You could have a lingerie or booze shower. (
Sorry I don't know the real name!) I lived with my husband, but we were missing a lot of things. Plus it's nice to replace your grotty old sheets & towels with the good stuff. People ARE going to get stuff, so you should at least register at one store for stuff you like (you'd be surprised once you get started). I highly recommend BB&B, C&B, Macy's. Myregistry.com is good too. Or your could have donations made in your name to a charity -we started a blog & set one up.
PS: If you do decide to register, be careful to only register for things you need or really, really like -we kept an ongoing list starting when we became engaged. We took any impulse "scans" off and returned anything we didn't need/love. We replace old items with the new. That way, our house didn't fill up, and I can safely say we have used at least 80-90% of our gifts and have plans to use the other 10-20%. Good luck!
I would call it a bridesmaid's tea or a girl's afternoon out. I think bridal party could be confusing because that it what the bride/groom and their attendants are called collectively. Typically a bridal party is not an event.
i wouldn't call it a "bridal party" because that's confusing. either have it as your bachelorette party or as your bridesmaid's luncheon before the wedding.
I say throw whatever kind of party you want. For some reason people keep saying its "gift grabby" but you said you dont want gifts so i dont see the problem. I just wouldnt call it a bridal shower
A bridesmaid luncheon is typically thrown by the bride, so I would call it that. The term wedding party is super confusing cause that's what your bridesmaids actually are - your wedding party. See where that gets confusing? But I had a bridesmaid luncheon the day before the wedding and loved that time with my girls. You should def go for it!
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I am thinking of having my own Bridal Party, ofcourse I will talk to my MOH about it and I know she won't mind. I am not really the party type and would just like to get together with some really close friends and family. I would like to invite everyone to go to a Tea House, since my theme in the wedding is victorian. I also enjoy going to them too.
Also, do people always get gifts at bridal showers? I have been to some and they do. My FI and I have been together for 9 years and don't really need anything. Any ideas on what to do regarding gifts? Do I say no gifts needed, gag gifts, or any other ideas?
Should I call it a Bridal Party or Bridal shower?
Here is an example of a Tea Room if you aren't familar.
http://www.hydeparktea.com/hptc5.htm