Is it okay to update wedding set in a few years?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@babyface2390:  A lot of Bees get offended at the idea of replacing their own rings, or even at others doing it.  I am not superstitial (or whatever you want to call it), and I just got a new ring for our 5 year anniversary!  DH thought it sounded like a great idea–he likes to make me happy!  My original rings are in a jewelery box set away.  Do what you want!  Hopefully your husband will agree with whatever you want to do.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Mom got an anniversary ring for her 20 year anniversary and her 5 year cancer-free anniversary (In September and August respectively)

No one judged her at all! It’s a pretty big 3-stone, and she LOVES it! (her e-ring was a .25ct solitaire)

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

FH brought up the idea of upgrading my ring on his own out of nowhere. We were in the car and he started talking about how his boss upgrades his wife’s ring every few years and that we can do that with mine. I chose the ring I wanted to begin with, but I will definitely not object if he wants to get me something else! I’ll just convert my original ring to a RHR if that’s the case.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

We have been married for 29 years. I just got a bigger engagement ring. I love it and he didn’t mind. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@babyface2390:  I totally agree about not trading in!  I would have NEVER given up my original just to help pay for a fraction of the cost of the new ring (plus I got Moissanite, so the cost wasn’t overwhelming).

I understand that he feels influenced by what the women in his family do, but this is between the two of you.  And LOTS of women upgrade!  You can do it at any year, but the 5’s are most common (5, 10, 15, etc.).

Do you have a finger pic of your ring now?  And you’re just thinking of getting a new center stone.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@BrandNewBride:  @babyface2390:  No one judged her at all!

I do not think that anyone would ever judge IRL!  It’s just a Bee thing to look down on upgrades.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@babyface2390:  FI’s mom completely changed her set, although it was after 20 years. She went from yellow gold band and engagement ring to white gold micropave band and a beautiful pear shaped diamond (which is still modestly sized but it’s GORGEOUS). I’m too sentimental, I would probably only update my centerstone but don’t even know if I’d actually do that or not but it doesn’t upset me if someone else does it. To each their own, you should be happy with your ring and if you’re not completely satisfied then change it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@babyface2390:  my MIL just updated her set for the second time and yet somehow my DH still thinks its not ok to do. I’m all like “But your mom did it twice!” (FIL is a jeweler)  If your hubby is for it, I say upgrade on friend! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I say go for it! The ring might be a “symbol” but at the end of the day it’s just an object (sentimental value sure but still an object/posession), your marriage is all that matters! If you want a new ring (and can afford it) get what you want! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@babyface2390:  Later on I know im going to want a beautiful anniversary ring but I know i wouldnt like wearing an anniversary ring on my right hand and i know a three stone setting anniversary ring wont look right layered on top of a solitare engagement ring.

I am confused.  You will want an anniversary ring plus an upgraded three-stone engagement ring?  As long as your husband is ok with it, that’s all that matters, but be prepared for him to balk at two expensive rings down the road.  You may want to decide what is most important and ask for that first.  (But why do you need a three-stone for an anniversary ring?  I think a diamond band is more standard, which blocks the other side of the engagement ring quite nicely, and would require a switch of engagement ring then.)

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