- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
In tears. Fiance is snippy. Just had Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man over tonight to walk through schedule and do some craft stuff. We’re doing this silly entrance Fiance thought of that involves a surprise musical dance number (we both met doing theater) and were working out a problem about it that just came up. In trying to understand this problem, myself and the others tried to come up with a solution. He got all pissy and shutdown saying how it’s done and we don’t have to talk about it anymore when clearly he was still upset about something. I asked him to explain further, putting the burden on myself, apologizing and saying that perhaps I misunderstood, please explain again. He snapped at me, making it sound like I didn’t want to hear or understand what he had to say when clearly everyone else in the room saw I was interested — it was his Bridesmaid or Best Man that had cut him off! I am embarrassed that happened in front of our friends.
I love that he is so wonderfully involved and appreciate his sensitivity…most of the time. But holy F********CK he is so OCD about the details. His favorite phrase is, “you know what would be better?” I lost count of how many times I asked him to please focus on what I just suggested instead of trying to top it.
I’m so sick of this sh*t. His Bridesmaid or Best Man asked him if he had a groom’s cake and he jokingly said no, but that our wedding cake itself is indeed his groom’s cake because I was so great about letting him “impose” (his word) on its design. I wonder if he realizes he’s imposed on everything else, too. I’m embarrassed to say this, but did I tell ya the one about him wanting to dress in my bridal suite? Seriously. Dude. Who’s wearing the dress here?! 🙁
I am so exhausted by his behavior lately. We’ve done the “take a break from it all” thing but that is not helping us now. We’re supposed to return to the site where he asked me to marry him tomorrow, nearly 1 year to the day he asked, Sept. 29th. We can’t go on Sept. 29th, though, because that is when he’s having his bachelor party…the one he invited his female groom’s attendant to because she can’t go to the bachelor party any other day. First of all, why are her needs coming before us? Second of all, why is a female at a bachelor party?
Thanks for letting me vent.