- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Even as I write this I feel like I’m being petty, but I can’t help being annoyed by this!
So FI and myself have been together for just shy of 3 years now, and just got engaged. We were very serious before getting engaged, I do all family stuff with him, shared bank accounts, live together etc.
Since before I’ve been on the scene, his mum has had a large photo of his ex FI with his two sisters up in the loungeroom. It’s nothing special, just a photo with a blank background with them all smiling at the camera.
Now at first, I didn’t mind too much since I understood that she thought she was going to be her daughter in law etc and just because two people break up, doesn’t mean the people whos lives she was introduced to suddenly hate her.
Now it’s been 3 years, and that photo is still there and it’s really starting to bug me, especially now we are engaged. There’s no photos of me, which I don’t mind since none of us are big photo takers but I feel if that was me, I would certainly take it down, as I feel it is disrespectful. I can’t help but wonder if she’ll still keep it up when we get married? I have no problem with old photos in photo albums, or the other photos shes in at family weddings and everything, I have no problem aknowledging the past, but this just seems a bit in your face.
Both daughters still live with her btw, so it’s not like it would be difficult to get another photo. His ex has been out of the pic for approx 5 years, and except for I assume occasionally bumping into each other, she doesn’t keep in contact.
I’ve asked FI to ask her to take it down, but he’s useless and keeps forgetting. I’m wondering if I should put my foot down, or if I’m being petty and leave it be, she will do it when she’s ready.