Post # 1
I am getting a little discouraged with my wedding planning. My FI and I originally planned on a wedding date of 10-13-2012. We ended up pushing the date back because of financial reasons, and because his sister (only sibling) wouldn’t have been able to come. Now I am wondering of we can ever afford a wedding at all.
I have lived on my own since I was 17 and have always had a tight budget. My FI and I have to pay for everything on our own since our parents cannot help us financially. We are basically relying on our tax returns to pay for our whole wedding (roughly $2000 is our guess).
I already have my dress, and my bridesmaids all have theirs. The cake is being gifted to us and our photographer is a friend of mine from School that will do it if we pay for her plane ticket. We still need a venue, food, wedding bands, decorations, and a DJ. I understand that I cannot go “all out” like other brides, but I would still like to keep it classy and fun.
We live about an hour and a half from Niagara Falls. I have looked online at some of the wedding packages they offer, and we could have a small ceremony for around $300ish. This way family and bridal party could still come, but we wouldn’t have a reception. We could also take the difference and go on a honeymoon.
I need your advice Bee’s! Should we scrimp for a wedding or have an intimate ceremony at the falls and a small honeymoon?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I think the intimate wedding would be more meaningful in the long run than waiting for the big elaborate one down the road.
Post # 4
I’d keep it small and classy. Only invite the people you really want there. In the end no one really remembers all the wedding details. We’re splurging on the ring and honeymoon… the wedding itself (well we’re eloping so just us 2) is just a small part of it.
Post # 5
I live right near you so I know how expensive it can be and I know how hard it is to count on the weather otherwise I would suggest outdoors! I would go for the honeymoon… throw a party when you have more money
Post # 6
I’d go for the intimate wedding. Classier and far more memorable. My cousin just did it. They had 25 people in the conference room of a fancy hotel, and then they had punch and cupcakes. Everyone went out for dinner afterwards at a steakhouse and guests paid for their own dinners in lieu of a wedding gift (about $50 a person). It was lovely and I actually got to greet the bride and groom.
Post # 7
Time to choose between quality and quantity.
Post # 8
@KTGoots: Personally, I would do a beautiful ceremony and a cake/punch reception. You can still celebrate in a beautful way and not cut corners. Have the wedding, have your first dance, play music with an ipod, have people say remarks, serve cake, punch and champagne if you can squeeze it into the budget. A beautiful display of fruit with a chocolate fountain would be cute too. I think it could be done for 2k and look classy.
Post # 9
One of my best friends was on a super tight budget and had a potluck wedding. No one cared, we were just so happy that they were getting married! Maybe that can be an option.
Post # 10
My sister had a small intimate destination wedding with about 20 people in florida, and later when she came home they had a big party with the family to celebrate but it wasnt really a reception and everyone who wanted to go out drinking and dancing went out on the town with her that night.
My brother and SIL had a wonderful wedding that was also budget, they had the ceremony at our local church and the reception at the VFW, but while it doesnt sound classy it was fall and beautifully decorated by gourds, pumpkins, leaves, candles etc. A wonderful local restaurant catered with a buffet that was honestly the most delicous food I have ever had at a wedding. We all had a blast.
So you can choose between a fancy tiny wedding with a party later or a big wedding without the fancy venues. The third option is to forget about serving dinner and have a cake and punch reception or even a backyard potluck (which is actually a ton of fun, but a lot more casual than some brides want.)
Post # 11
@KTGoots: “We live about an hour and a half from Niagara Falls. I have looked online at some of the wedding packages they offer, and we could have a small ceremony for around $300ish. This way family and bridal party could still come, but we wouldn’t have a reception.
You’d still have to receive your guests somehow, even if it’s dinner or lunch at a restaurant together. It doesnt have to be a typical reception, but you have to do something – even cake and punch at the park.
Post # 12
@sienna76: Not necessarily. There are no hard and fast rules.
OP, I voted intimate and honeymoon. As a bride who is still waiting for her honeymoon…..believe me, you’ll want one! Save your moot!
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You would have to make a lot of comrpomises but you can: sef catrered food, no pro photographer, Ipod reception, cheap venue (like a park with a community hall), use your own trasnportaion, etc.
My friend (and bm) had about 300 people at her wedding 10 years ago for about $2000. It was a simple Catholic church wedding and then held at the church hall. Family members cooked. A cousin took pics. Her cousin made her dress. It was a beautiful day (from the loo of it). And she was happy.
Post # 15
You do have to host your guests in some way. But there is nothing wrong with a cake and punch reception if that is what you can afford.
I think also the further you make people travel then the more you have to do for them. If someone has to drive over 45 mins, I think you should provide more then a slice of cake and 1 hour reception. But if it’s local then here’s your cake.
I would discourage you from something like a potluck, which is not hosting, but foisting the cost of the event off on your guests. Host what you can afford, or slash your guest list.
Post # 16
This is a link to a bride who had a $4000 wedding with 245 guests. Maybe it can offer you some insight!