Post # 1
Out of curiousity, is it possible to have a baby and go to school? I have about 5 years of school left but Darling Husband wants to have a baby within the next 1-2 years. Has anyone gone to college while being a parent? Another concern we have it that we are moving about 3 hours away from family in a few months so we will have nobody around us.
Post # 3
I worked several jobs, went to school, and had my son. It is possible, but it is NOT easy and especially not easy without your support system there. I think that you can do it, but it would take an emense amount of coordination and compromise with you and your Darling Husband. I would not suggest taking a full load, def not. You really have to sit down and discuss every possibility of what could happen and where the compromises are going to come in.
Post # 4
So I don’t have a baby but I know from friends that is doable. One of my good friends became pregnant very early (she was 19 and it was planned) and she went to school for chemical engineering and became pregnant with her second child at the end of her second to last semester and was 7 months pregnant when she graduated. It tough but she had the support of her hubby and most schools have a good day care program for women with kids (and some financial help).
On the other hand I know another girl that got pregnant while in grad school and she had a full time job. She ended going part time on her jon and manage to graduate with honors, she was selected outstanding graduate student for graduation.
So its possible, just make sure you are prepared for the challenges.
Post # 5
@Tswife4ever: I started nursing school when my little one was 6 months old. It is not easy, but doable. My husband was very supportive ( stay up at night with baby, do his fair share of cleaning and cooking, etc ) You would have to have a plan for missing school for labor and delivery and the first 6 weeks postpartum, the baby is too small to go to a childcare center at that time.
Post # 6
Are you an undergrad student or at the grad/PhD level? Why rush into family planning (unless you are in your late 20s or early 30s)? Either way, it will be a difficult road and will require a lot of time management/compromise. Best of luck!
Post # 7
There was a couple I was in law school with that had a baby. She was lucky and the baby was born over a break, though right after finals, I don’t know how she studied or didn’t go into labor early from the stress haha. It seemed like they coordinated so that while one was in class the other was with the baby. I’m sure its hard, but they both do well and are graduating on time.
Post # 8
I see myself in a situation where I will be in grad school and pregnant, but, alas, life happens. Its doable but hard!
Post # 9
@bigcitybee: I am currently getting my Associates but my goal is my Masters. I am 23 but Darling Husband is 27 and wants a baby before he is 30.
Post # 10
I am finishing up nursing school, and while I don’t have a baby I can tell you that literally about half of our class does. And they have all done just fine! It definitely helps to have some support, and sounds like you’ve got a good hubby to help you out! It’s obviously not ideal, but it’s 100% doable, and really it doesn’t seem to have bothered any of my classmates too much at all.
Post # 11
@Tswife4ever: Hm. Well, how do you feel about this? Do you feel ready for children–a lifelong responsibility–at such a young age? Just because your SO is ready does not mean that you are, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you go along with it if it doesn’t mesh well with your own plans/goals at this time. Of course, if you do feel ready, then disregard what I just wrote lol.
It would certainly be do-able, but it would be very stressful. It would require a lot of planning, sacrifice, time management…totally up to you if you are ready for this or not! 🙂
Post # 12
I’m sure it is possible, but it can’t be easy. I don’t have any kids yet, but I’ve earned 2 degrees and that was hard enough. I can’t imagine having done it all with a child. I barely slept as it was!
Post # 13
It is possible. I know a girl in med school who just had a baby and she is managing fine. She lives two hours away with her husband. Don’t let the proxomity of family deter you, I live 40 hours away from everyone I know and I’ll be TTC in Jan.
Post # 14
@Juliepants: Exactly. The thought is terrifying! I’ll be done with school before SO (he’s doing a Ph.D.) and we don’t want children until he has a serious job and we can financially support one / don’t have to care for a baby and write a dissertation!
Post # 15
I will have to tell you in a couple of months! I am due in April and I have a year of school (masters) left. I will not be working full time, but I will have a part-time internship as well! We will see! The fun part is that I am due April 12th. Yup, right smack in the middle of this semester!! 🙂
Post # 16
I would say it’s definitely possible. I know a ton of people who have entered pharmacy school while having kids and had kids while in school. I would second PPs and say it’s a tough boat, and I personally would never be able to do it. However, if you have an awesome support system, that makes it much more feasible. Best of luck to the both of you!!!