- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
This is sorta long… Sorry. But, I need to know what the hive thinks of this.
In December, I asked my cousin for her oldest daughter (who will be 5 at the time of the wedding) to be a flower girl in our wedding. My cousin jumped at it and said, “P. would love that.” I also asked my FSIL if we could use her oldest daugher ( who would also be 5 at the time of the wedding). Two weeks later my cousin called and said, “I wanted to know if you would mind if I bought the same dress for younger daughter as the one you pick out for older daughter. That way they can just walk down the aisle together.” I was a bit taken back, but I said OK. I thought, “oh,why argue.? It will be cute” Then a few days later, I got the exact same phone call from my FSIL. Again, “Eh, why argue, it will be cute.” So we ended up with 4 flower girls.
Prior to the two phone calls about adding younger siblings, we asked my FI cousin if we could use his son as a ring bearer. Cousin said yes. So, we asked 2nd cousin for his oldest son as well. Then jump forward to Christmas day and we are at a Christmas party at the future in-laws house and both cousins come up and ask if we would mind if their other two children are in the wedding as well. Thus adding another ring bearer and flower girl. In case you lost count, that puts us at 5 FG and 3 RB. Oy VEY!
Fast forward a few months. I started sending out e-mails to all FG mom’s with the link to the dress I wanted to use and the offer to pay shipping on all 5 dresses assuming we order in one order. I advised since the dresses take 8-10 weeks to come in I wanted them ordered no later than 6-15 as we are getting married 9-25. Thus putting the dresses here sometime in August and allowing a few weeks to alter if needed. Please keep in mind I was either sending e-mails out monthly and some times twice a month since December reminding the mom’s that I needed measurements and sizes by 6-15. No I did not expect them to run out in February and get the girls measured for a September wedding. However I did not expect what would happen next.
Monday, 6-14, My cousin calls me to tell me that I am asking for something totally unreasonable as her girls have changed sizes in the last month and that she is not comfortable with ordering now for September. She doesn’t have time to take them this week to get measured. I remindered her that I have been asking for MONTHS for this to be done and she said, “Well, you take them then if it is so important to you.” WHAT??? She is the one who started this whole siblings in the wedding thing and now she can’t comply with what i need for sanity and reality of shipping dates? Then she calls her mom, my aunt, to complain about it. Her mom calls my mom who calls me and started yelling about how unrealistic I was being about ordering dresses in june for a September wedding. After she got done ripping me apart I finally said, “Mom, I have been telling her since Dec. that I would need this by tomorrow.” My mom said, “Oh, what? She told Judy (my aunt) that you asked for this yesterday. However, I still think ordering now is a bit early.” So I again repeated the shipping time frame and said, “if she is so worried the dress will be too small we can order it a size big and have it altered when it comes in.” My mom still told me I was wrong.
So, Hive, Am I wrong? Am I being unrealistic? Am I asking too much?