(Closed) Is it possible to over-gift the groom?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 4
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@MissBananaBread: You can do what you like but if it were me I would not give it as a wedding gift. I do not have a problem buying expensive gifts but the wedding is not the time. You are THE prize, on your wedding day. Give it to him the following Christmas since your wedding is so close to the holiday.

Post # 5
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think a motorcycle would be a great idea. Especially if it’s what he’s always wanted. I had tried to get my Fiance his dream car. LOL. But that obviously required a lot more savings. In the end his parents gifted us the car for our wedding gift though.

Also, please don’t take this the wrong way, and it’s not meant to be bratty but 4-5k is not too much to spend on a day of gift. I know people who buy each other expensive jewelery/watches that are in the price range or higher even.

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would give it to him as a wedding gift but have it be waiting for him when you get back from your wedding. I wouldn’t want him to focus on the bike that day or even want to ride it in his tux. But tell him you have a gift or give him a card and tell him know the gift will be waiting for him when he comes back from the honeymoon.

It is expensive but if you can afford it I would say do it. Just think of the cost that guys spend on our engagement and wedding bands and they mostly just get a plain piece of metal for a band lol


Post # 8
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Mother-In-Law bought my Father-In-Law a used corvette for their wedding and he STILL brags about it today 35 years later even though he sold it when Darling Husband was born 30 years ago. He uses is as his “I have the best wife ever, and I knew it from Day 1” story. I love hearing him tell it and it makes her beam to know that she got him the perfect gift. I say go for it!!

Post # 9
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I personally would see it as too large a gift to give my groom on our wedding day.

However, if you think it’s perfect, and your circumstances allow, you should do what you want. Do you think he will be able to wait until after the honeymoon to go for a ride? I’m not sure your wedding day is the day to test out a new motorcycle. 😉


Post # 10
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I say give it to him as a wedding gift if you want to but I definitely agree with PP about having it waiting for him when he gets back. It’s just cruel to dangle a new toy in front of him and then tell him he can’t play with it for a while. Why not make a fun game out of it? For instance, on the day of the wedding give him a card with a really vague clue about his gift. Then throughout your honeymoon, periodlically give him a few more clues but be sure to not make it too easy. Ideally, you could work it so he’s totally puzzled until you get back home. Give him the last clue that will make it all click once you’re home.

Post # 11
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s your day and you know your Fiance better then us. I thought about getting my Fiance a motorcycle aswell because I know he wants one but with the wedding cost and building a new house this may take a back sit. If youhave the extra money then go for it. If your Fiance is like mines he knows I/we will go all out on a gift. Good luck.

Post # 13
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If it’s the perfect gift for him, and you can afford it, then go for it!  Just make sure you stipulate that he CAN NOT obsess about it during the wedding, LOL.  Your wedding day is STILL going to be amazing and emotional for both of you, no matter what the gifts are…and then he could brag about you for the rest of your lives 🙂

My first husband and I exchanged our wedding gifts to each other the day before the wedding, privately, before the rehearsal dinner…so I suppose you could do that so he can get the excitement out of his system first?

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