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I got engaged last Christmas and will be getting married in August of 2011. My fi and I are teaching overseas from this September til May. The more I think about all there is to do, the more I wonder if it can be done. I’ll come back in May and have until the first week of August to plan a wedding. Do you think it can be done?
I’m going to send out save the dates soon and invites this July. I plan on having a simple outdoor wedding at my family’s summer camp with a reception on site. I plan on doing a lot of things myself to save money. (For example, have an ipod shuffle list instead of a DJ.) My uncle is a composer/arranger, and my mom’s family all play instruments, so he’ll probably arrange 80s pop tunes for a quartet. (That’s one thing off the list 🙂 I already have my dress. We’re not planning on having a wedding registry because we may be traveling a lot.
I’ll be able to communicate with my parents via Skype and have my mom pick up things on sale (such as white Christmas lights, decorations, etc)
What do you think, can it be done in 3 months? I can start planning this summer, but so far away from the wedding, what can I get started on early? Any tips or suggestions? I envision a simple, pretty wedding– nothing too over the top or complicated. I’d love any ideas or advice.
Post # 3
I think it definitely can. I helped a friend organise hers in three months. But you have to go in the mind of keep everything simple! The first 4 weeks of those three months are crucial. Have your colors and get your family together and delegate delegate delegate.
Check list also helps with this too!
Best things to do is.. Catering is cruicial. How big the wedding is, selecting your how you going to have it, sit down, cocktail. Once you have decided from there it brings along a big process. Start the dress hunt now!! that takes alot of time I think.
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It can be done. My fiance’s sister just got married and had only 3 months to plan. I know it was very stressful on her mom since she did most of the work 😛 But yes, it can be done. Good luck!
Post # 6
Zippylef, those links are handy.
I live in Iowa. I guess I don’t even know where to start. My fi is allergic to flowers, so instead of a flourist, I might just order a ton of fake flowers. I’ll definitely hire a caterer. I guess anthing I can get done this summer would make things easier for me.
I guess I need to decide how formal I want the wedding, and what details I need and what I can live without. I also need to decide how many guests. I’m guessing probably 100-150.
Post # 7
You can totally do it. You’re not really PLANNING in three months, you’ll just have 3 months in the location, right? But for the next year you can be thinking/envisioning/doing things online/having your mom lay some of the groundwork? That’s basically what I’m doing, only I have just a week before the wedding to be in the location.
Definitely delegate and be organized – as long as you do that, you should be good to go. Try to get your vision/ideas completely solidified before you get back to the states so that all you have to do once you’re here is execute. Good luck!
Post # 8
farmersdaughter- Wow! A week in your location. You’re right, I can plan a lot online, and maybe if I get a binder (I love binders) I can have everything ready with to do lists.
I can probably order stuff online and have it shipped home.
Post # 9
My original venue closed so we planned a 300 person wedding in Manhattan in about 4 months. At 4 months out, the only things we had were my dress, and the photographer (the band was booked on our new wedding date, and the florist became ill and had to close his shop). It was quite hectic, but everything worked out well.
I think that it is quite possible to plan your wedding in 3 months if you are a very flexible person. The truth is that you may not get your first choice in vendors (which is sometimes a good thing, as our second band was outstanding, and the original one was only good). But the good news is that if you book on short notice, you can often get a great deal. Vendors are unlikely to be able to find someone else to book that date, so you are in a great negotiating position when you find vendors you like. We were able to afford a venue we had originally looked at and rejected because it was too expensive. On short notice it was less than half the price we were originally quoted.
I would recommend that you try to call many venues in your area to see which dates are available. Because I got married in NYC and my wedding date was forbidden for conservative or Orthodox Jews there were many venues available on that date, which meant that many of the vendors were also free. If there are no Saturdays that have a lot of availability, you could consider getting married on a Friday or Sunday to give you a better shot of lining up your vendors.
The only other thing I would warn you about is your bridesmaid dresses. Almost all dresses are manufactured in China, which means that that shipping and processing delays can take a long time and some companies require 4 months to order the gowns.
Best of luck to you!
Post # 10
It definitely can be done. I did a lot of looking on-line for things. I loved my MOB gown ordered from http://www.keepmeinstitches.biz which I ordered only 2 months before my daughter’s wedding. They have wedding gowns, bridesmaid gowns, MOB gowns, and accessories. The prices are fantastic-and great quality!!! You just have to get properly measured. I went to my local drycleaner/seamstress to get measured, then I called their customer service to make sure the gown I wanted was in stock, and it got mailed to me in plenty of time for the wedding! I was very satisfied!!! They have a “real” store in PA. I also ordered my daughter’s birdcage veil from someone on Ebay/Etsy, with only 1 month to the wedding. I haven’t done business with them, but http://www.afloral.com (I think) is where I’ve seen many silk flowers for good prices. If you are looking for linens, I got satin linens from http://www.weddinglinensdirect.com Internet shopping makes it pretty easy. Good luck!
Post # 11
Awesome! Thanks for the tips! I didn’t think about the bridesmaids’ dresses. I will try to get them ordered this summer instead of next summer.
rlsulli- I will check out that flower website- 🙂
I think I can pull it off. I’m pretty laid-back and since I don’t have a vision of what it has to be, that will help. I just want my friends and family there, the weather to be okay, and not to break the bank 🙂
Post # 12
Like all other responses, I too am positive you can do it in 4 months. Especially since in between now and May next year when you can start the real planning, you will have plenty of time to browse around for ideas and all that good stuff. So by the time you can actually start planning for real you will have a pretty good idea of how you’d like for things to be, which is only going to make it easier! I got engaged halfway January but the FI had to get used to the idea a lil (even though HE was the one who surprised ME with an unexpected proposal :)) which took him a good 3 months /grins so now there’s just 4 months left to do the actual planning. But as I have done quite some browsing around for ideas and all I have a pretty good idea what I’d like and what I definitely dislike etc — which to me makes it easier to pinpoint things down and get them sorted for our wedding.
Things you can work out before you are leaving abroad would be things like the invites (layout and text, then all you need to fill in lateron are the details), think about and look around for venues you might like, maybe even pick out your wedding dress (unless you want it to be the newest 2011 collection heh), you can think about your guestlist.. etcetc.
Good luck! And how exciting to go abroad to go teach!! 🙂
Post # 13
If your wedding is Friday or Sunday that will definitely help in getting vendors. You might even get discounts.
Post # 14
FWIW, we planned a wedding at a place we never even saw until our wedding day. We got some recommendations for a rabbi from friends who had lived in that area. None of their recommendations actually worked out, but one of them referred us to the rabbi we did use. Our ceremony venue was his synagogue. We found accommodations for us and all our guests via VRBO. We found our hair and make-up person and our photographer via Craigslist. We found bouquets we liked on Teleflorist, then looked up the local Teleflorist in the area of the ceremony to order. We had a chain restaurant in this area we really liked, and looked up the location closest to our venue. That’s where we had our reception.
Pretty much everything else, we could do long-distance. We bought our dresses near where we live. We did all our DIY projects here. Thus, we could arrive in the state Sunday night, get our marriage license and a waiver of the three-day waiting period Monday, and have the ceremony on Tuesday.
Post # 15
Good Luck it can be done!!! Any thing is possible =)
Post # 16
breath!! organize yourself! have fun and dont stress. these are all the stuff i didnt do and im going crazy!! a check list and an agenda will help you alot.