Post # 1
My BIL is getting married and I’m trying to figure out what to wear. I have a dress that I feel is nice enough to wear, but the majority of it is black. There is a bit of white detail on it, but it’s 80% black.
I’m not really wanting to buy a new dress. DH already had to spent a fortune on his suit. Would this dress be okay to wear? I personally didn’t care if people wore black to my wedding. I think black is a colour that looks great on anyone, and I don’t relate it to funerals at all. I think MIL might have worn black to another family wedding at some point too.
I just don’t want to offend them… should I suck it up and buy a new dress? Or do you think it would be okay to wear this one?
The black to white proportion is kind of like this dress:
The dress is NOT flowy though, it’s pretty tight fitted. It’s not strapless (I would wear a little jacket with it too). The material is satin.
Post # 2
MrsCallalily: Black is being worn to more and more weddings. I think it’s more about the appropriateness of the dress – cut, fabric etc. and the wedding – formal, evening, garden wedding . A black dress is not automatically ok for any wedding.
Post # 3
MrsCallalily: i have never seen an issue with wearing black to a wedding. I mean most groomsmen and even the groom wears a black tux, so why can’t a guest wear black? LoL
Post # 4
I wore an 80% black dress to a wedding this past weekend… so I would say nothing wrong with it at all as long as it appropriate to the style of that wedding.
for instance i wouldn’t wear the one you posted to a beach wedding, or backyard wedding… but at a hall or city venue in the evening, for sure!
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t wear black, just because it reminds me of funeral. Thats a cute dress though!
Post # 6
MrsCallalily: What time is the wedding? What kind of venue is it? If it’s an evening wedding in a formal setting, you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t know too many details about the wedding. I believe it’s in the evening, indoors.. I don’t know how formal it is. Maybe I just need to ask more questions.
Post # 8
Considering historically a mourning color is white… I think wearing black to a wedding is fine. Black goes with everything and compliments every body.
Post # 9
I think an elegant black dress is fine.
Post # 10
If your wedding gets mistaken for a funeral you have Big issues. You can wear black to any other party or event so I say go for it. I actually bought a new dress for a recent wedding and wish I hadn’t as there was a lot of folks in black.
Post # 11
I have been in two weddings where the primary dress color for the bridesmaids was black. My bridesmaid dresses for my wedding looked similar to the picture you showed. Don’t where black to a wedding has been officaly outdated. I’m not sure of the date, but it happened sometime between when my VERY ettiqute concious aunt had words with my mom about wearing a black skirt to a wedding and when she wore a black dress to the next wedding we where all at. 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! I will probably stick with my dress then. I wasn’t sure if anyone still thought black as inappropriate, so i’m glad to see it is outdated. Thank you!
Post # 13
I don’t see anything wrong with it, I have worn black as a guest before and my mom wore black to my wedding 🙂
Post # 14
I wouldnt wear black to a morning or beach wedding. Evening wedding is fine. I wore an all black dress to an evening wedding with nude heels.
Post # 15
Most of my wedding guests wore black. I wear black to almost every wedding. I see no issue with it.