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Is it really different when it's your own?

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    I've never been a huge fan of kids, although lately I've been finding them a lot less horrifying and kind of want one :-)  It won't be for at least 2 years though, when my H finishes school.  Is there anyone on here who didn't like kids that much, had them anyway, and felt differently because it's theirs?

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    good lord i hope so! i feel the same way!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Before I had my children, I would get physically ill when I came in contact with them. When I had my own that all changed. My children are my life.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    I sure hope so! (though I have grown more tolerant over the years)...

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    I don't have children either and am a couple of years away from it, but I've heard it's *very* different when they're your own. This particularly seems true for men! My DH's boss once said to him "kids are like farts, you can only just stand your own" :)

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    I would hope so.  I want one.  Not sold on the thought of 2.  I hate ill behaved kids.  I hate their parents for letting them get that way too.  That's my big issue.  But I'm looking forward to hauling a little one around the world, just like my parents did.  Seeing things through their eyes.

     
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    Miss Starlet    June 8, 2009   MI

    I wanted nothing to do with kids before I got pregnant. I still don't really like other peoples kids all the time.

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    I don't have very much experience with them. Never had little siblings or cousins or anything, really, so I tend to be very awkward. I worry I'll hurt them or let them hurt themselves, and I don't know how to entertain them. I also have varying levels of patience, and I get bored, so I worry, too. But I have like 6 years until I have to worry about that. I am hoping some nieces or nephews will ease me into it until them. I mean, objectively, I do really like children. I just don't know how to be with them.

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    I hope so too! My brother had kids when I was 22 and while they are awesome I had NO desire to have them, or spend endless time with them.  I have a lot of friends who I also wouldn't describe as "baby people" but they are head over heels for their kids.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Everyone tells me this. Even the guys at work with whom I can actually relate to.

    I think i'll be ok. SIL never wanted kids now has 2 and wants TWO MORE.

    I love my cats so much. How could I not love my own flesh and blood?

     
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    dorsay    August 2009  

    @ejs4y8 HAhahahaahha, oh man. I never thought about it like that. I love my cats, I hope I love my future kids!

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I feel the same way, i love my niece and nephews but am so glad when I can leave them behind!!  I don't think I'll ever be actually ready for kids, it'll just happend when it happens

     
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    I can't stand to watch my neice and nephews overnight, so I was worried about this too.  But then I thought about my dog (sad analogy I know).  The thing is, if he was someone else's dog I don't think I'd like him. But he is my dog and I adore all his little quirks.  So I have hope that I'll love my kids despite their quirks.

     
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    di5308    January 1, 2000  

    My sister said that it was so different when it was her own daughter in her arms. She was so worried that she wouldn't have that maternal instinct and she had never been around babies before. She was a nervous mom at times, but was so loving and tender with her daughter. She just knew what to do.

    I have always been a baby person. Screaming kids don't bother me, I don't mind kids on airplanes or in (family friendly) restaurants. My niece screamed for an hour in the car after my sister picked me up from the airport because she broke her little sunglasses and it didn't bother me one bit. There's still a little part of me that wonders if i really will be a natural at mommyhood or not, but FI and I both want kids, so I guess if I'm not, I'll learn.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    i hope so too... i still don't know if i want kids because i seriously don't like being around them. Embarassed I have an adorable 1 year old nephew and like to hold him for a few seconds and then i give him right back to my sis or mom. If he cries, ahh geeze i go to another room!

     

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