Post # 1
to RSVP on time?
I sent out STD cards, then the invites and gave everyone plenty of time to RSVP.
Fast forward to 2 weeks past the rsvp date and I still have about 15 cards I have not received back.
I put in self addressed, stamped envelopes, all they had to do was answer.
Is it really so hard to do? I’m over it and now I have to chase these people up! I want to do seating charts and I need to give final numbers to the venue, we have 5 weeks to go….
Married bees – did you have this problem too? or am I just stressing after a long week at work?
Post # 3
I feel ya. We had less than 50% of people actually send the cards back. Drove me freaking crazy!
Post # 4
Probably a little bit of both.
Failure to RSVP bugs the crap out of me. I’ve just accepted that there are some people that I’m going to have to chase down — hopefully not physically.
It’s something so simple, that makes such a difference.
My suggestion: Take a deep breath and try to relax. Then practice chanting, “I will not kill the guests. I will not kill the guests. I will not kill the guests.”
Post # 5
Nope you are not just stressing and yep, we received less than 1/2 our RSVP’s back. Those that didn’t RSVP stated they assumed we knew they were coming or they assumed we knew they weren’t. C’mon people! If I knew then I wouldn’t have wasted money sending you an invite let alone a pre-stamped RSVP. Sorry to rant-jack. Vent over. 🙂 And yeah, I don’t know why it’s hard to do. 🙂
Post # 6
@AmiDenise: I will not kill the guests!
I wouldnt even mind if they answered via email/text! A nice cold glass of wine is going down well tonight!
Post # 7
@kiwime: Make it other peoples’ problems. Once you hit your RSVP date divide up the list among your family, his family, your friends, and his friends. That way you can ask the moms to contact their respective sides, etc.
Post # 8
I guess the toughest part of all of that to me is those 15 guests = about $7 that I already spent on flowers, or a basket to put programs in, or favors, or anything else to make this party awesome. It seems discourteous to me to not respond on time, especially when we give our guests ample time and planning a wedding, in the final hours, can depend on the guest list.
I literally almost hurt someone this week because they just giggled and said “oh, I’m so bad at that! Well, I’m responding in person, we’ll be there!” just take that energy and stick it in the mailbox so I can remember to move you to the “yes” side of the pie chart on my excel file. geez.
Post # 9
@CorgiTales: I have just asked my mum to contact some of them. I am getting a little overwhelmed I think. We are organising 2 weddings – one here in New Zealand and one in The Netherlands for FI’s family so it’s double the work! (but double the fun too)
Post # 10
@kiwime: It makes me so glad to hear you say you would appreciate an email/text at the least, because I felt horrible when I lost track and sent my friends RSVP in late, but I made sure to text her the day it was due and tell her that we were coming since I know how important knowing the numbers is, but I still felt guilty…
Post # 11
@GatorKate: people get busy I get that but a text at least means you thought of it and let them know wether or not you were going – dont feel guilty!
Post # 12
I had RSVP post cards made up and stamped also. But I did tell my guests that they could email me, or call, hell send smoke signals if necessary or even if they saw me in person give me a yes or a no(gotta love plugging the answer into my cell phone). I put both me and FH’s email’s and phone numbres on there as well. I’ve gotten back maybe 20 actual rsvp post cards back. I have however spoken to, been emailed, and facebooked back responses from quite a few others. Our deadline is 10/14/11 so we still have a few weeks and are already at 50% acceptance which is great! I dont care how they get back to me as long as they get me the message!
PS…my guest dont get to find out where the reception is unless they RSVP, so it’s a little more incentive for them to get back to us. The sheer curiosity is must be killing them. I;v gotten so many questions about it.