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I don't plan on hiding. I don't want FI to see me, but other than that, I don't really care much!
i say do what you want. i personally dont want the groom to see me...i could care less about guests..I hate that there is wedding etiquette because i really believe its your day and you can do whatever you want no matter how out of the ordinary it is.
We did our photos before the ceremony, so ALL my guests saw me before the ceremony. The only thing that mattered to me was the DH saw me FIRST. (We had a private first look shoot.) Piddles on the rest of it, what do YOU want?
Honestly, I think it is a personal decision. If you have always wanted your "big reveal" to everyone and your FI to be at the aisle, then great. However, if you would rather greet everyone and see your FI before, then why not? First looks were not done in my parents generation, but they are very popular now! Just because it is "traditional" doesn't mean it is for you. I will be doing my reveal at the aisle, but that is just how I always pictured it. If you don't care either way, then I say do what you want to do!
I don't think that it is so much of an etiquette thing...I think its probably more so that brides don't want everyone to see them? Personally, I didn't want EVERYONE to see me (just family and bridal party)...but if a guest or two happened to catch a peek of me when we were doing photos, I wasn't stressing about it. If you are comfortable with seeing your guests before the wedding, then go for it I say!
I think it really comes down to personal choice. I want to stay hidden because I can't wait for that special moment. I do, however, think every situation is different. Do what feels right!!
I think you're guest would really appreciate it and feel more welcome before the ceremony. I don't anyone cares if you follow that tradition of "the big reveal." Personally I plan meeting our guest after the ceremony and then leaving for our pics.
I want the big reveal, but that's a personal choice not etiquette. I say greet your guests if that's what you'd like to do. Absolutely nothing will be ruined by doing it.
Oh we are totally gonna still greet the guests/see each other prior to the actual ceremony:), I was just shocked that it was something thats expected.
I definately understand wanting to wait for the special moment but it just aint happenin for us :P
That used to be because of weird old customs and superstition. Unless you're really into that stuff, do what you feel you want to do. I don't see any real reason you can't greet guests to start off with. I think it's a great idea, and they would probably love it!
We did photos beforehand so our extended families on both sides had already seen me and to get inside the venue, I had to pass by several guests arriving. I didn't really care, and actually was able to greet them in a bit more leisurely than during the rest of the day when there were more guests present. Also, a handful of my girlfriends dropped by the room where I was waiting before the ceremony and that was wonderful to chat with them (probably among my favorite memories of the day). So by the time I walked down the aisle, at least half our attendees had seen me. I think if the big reveal is something you want, go for it. But from the guest perspective, it probably doesn't matter that much -- just make it a point to greet them warmly and thank them for coming whether it is before or after you walk down the aisle.
I couldn't avoid seeing guests before the ceremony since they were staying in the hotel I was getting ready, but I didn't mind. The only thing that bothered me was if they tried to come over and talk to me (sorry if I sound like a diva here), I mean it was my WEDDING day I obviously had about 50 people asking me questions at any second.
A lot of guests saw me before our wedding. It wasn't a big deal for me and I don't think it took anything away.
I think it's personal preference on your part, not really an issue of etiquette. But as a guest, I'd rather not see the bride ahead of time. At the wedding I was at earlier this month the bride was just wandering around before the ceremony so we couldn't help but see her before the ceremony, which was disapointing. In my mind, isn't that the whole point of the processional?
It is definately NOT a breach of etiquette for the guests to see the bride prior to the ceremony: just an old superstition about bad luck. Greeting your guests as they arrive IS a matter of etiquette -- it is very good form.
The way brides of the past got away with hiding before the ceremony was, they either got married in Church where supposedly God is the host and greets the guests, or they got married at home and their mother was hostess and greeted the guests. When modern brides act as their own hostess, they have to choose between being a very good hostesses as you plan to be, or following traditions that are incompatible with the role of hostess. Guests are usually willing to cut the bride a lot of slack if she chooses the latter. But it is far more gracious to do as you are doing, and greet your guests properly. Don't allow a reality TV show to override what are obviously good hospitable instincts!
I hid, because I didn't see DH before walking down the aisle.
He got to mingle and greet guests as they arrived and said it was one of his favorite parts of the wedding!
If you've figured out the logistics of when you see your FI and the anticipation by your guests of your entrance doesn't appeal to you - I say, go for it! You're 'reveal' will be when you greet guests....
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..for the guests to see the bride prior to the actualy ceremony? I know its supposed to be this big fantastical reveal but me and my FH want to greet the guests as they arrive Plus its too far a walk from the main house to the big open field we want to be married in to really do a nice processional.
I wonder because I've seen brides show their dress before the processionals on Four Wedding and get marked down for it! Jesus! I just didnt think it was such a big deal to keep the dress/yourself hidden..