(Closed) Are you/Would you include Men at your wedding shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Are you/would you include Men at your wedding shower?
    Yes, definitely : (24 votes)
    49 %
    No : (11 votes)
    22 %
    I'm not sure : (5 votes)
    10 %
    It works for some, but not me : (8 votes)
    16 %
    Other (explain) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have been to a LOT of wedding showers with men and women, and even baby showers.  It completely depends on the couple.  

    Btw, the location of my bridal shower has a minimum head count required, so if with women we fall below that, I am 100% adding men to the list!

    Post # 4
    Member
    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    That’s literally ALL I’ve been to recently. We call them “couple showers” here and FI and I plan on doing that as well. No reason to not have the guys there. My brothers are really close to me and it’s FI’s wedding and gifts too. Why SHOULDN’T he be there, ya know?

    The aunt needs to get with the program. It’s not about her or her traditions. Buh.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Do you expect the guys to participate in the gift opening/ potential games, etc?  If you are skipping some of the traditional things and making it more like a party, I could see the guys getting involved.  I have a fairly traditional set of friends/ family and if I invited the men, they wouldn’t have come.  If you male friends/ family are less traditional and more open minded, they may be glad to come though.

    Also, your questions are backwards in the title vs. your poll.  People may vote the wrong way if they don’t notice that.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1636 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The only “men” invited to my bridal shower are our our 2 brothers and our fathers

    Post # 8
    Member
    2793 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We invited our groomsman, best man, and our dads. Everyone thought it was a nice gesture. We did a trivia-type game and the guys were surprisingly the most into it! Competition, doesn’t surprise me!

    Post # 9
    Member
    2462 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i voted “other” because my hubby, his dad, and dad’s best friend (whose wife was co-hosting my shower) came near the end for present-opening during my shower. i don’t think it’d be weird at all to have men there the whole time though either. i’ve been to baby showers with both men and women, but not bridal showers. for us though, it totally made sense to have hubby there for present-opening: since he cooks more often than i do the presents were almost more for him 😉

    Post # 10
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    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are also having a couples shower and I can’t wait! A lot of FI’s friends are married with children and we just wouldn’t feel right not inviting the whole family, especially since we have a little one of our own. However, we are not really having a traditional shower with games and things, we are doing a backyard BBQ very casual get together type shower.

    Post # 11
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We didn’t officially invite guys to our shower, but they were at the same place in the next room, and kept popping over to see what was going on. If I could do it again, I would have just invited them. Now that I’m having a baby shower I learned my lesson and boys are invited. I think as long as it’s catered towards guys too (not too many games and girly stuff), it’s fine to have men there.

    Post # 12
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    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I like the idea of having just the girls together to hang out and relax.  But I went to a really big shower for two friends of mine getting married and it was all coed.  Fun time, but also got expensive to pay for all those people.  So either way.  It’s a personal decision with no right or wrong answer.

    Post # 13
    Member
    5755 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would wonder why they’d even WANT to come? Why can’t it just be the women for a few hours?

    Post # 14
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think its bad, but I don’t think men really want to be at showers anyways. I told Kingy it was his decision and he was so thankful I didn’t make him go. My cousin is having a couples shower and all of my uncles are refusing to go. Its just not something most men want to do with their time. I would never not attend a shower because the fiance/dad was there.

    Post # 15
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    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think mine is going to be all women and my dad will bring FI for the gift-opening portion.

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