Post # 1
My fi and i live together, and he is working incredibly long hours getting his business off the ground, and currently just coming back home to eat then collapse in bed. its tough, but i know he’s working for a better future for both of us, and things should settle down in a few months
im currently at home all the time (cant work until status changes after wedding next year) so i do all the cooking and domestic stuff- hes now pretty much forgotten how.
im getting worried he wont have time to cook when im away (next month im goign to england for 3 and a half weeks to see my family,and he will stay in mexico) and he’ll end up not eating or eating junk every night. hes trying to diet – i dont care about his shape but he wants to get thinner for the wedding – and i dont think itll stick without me cooking low fat meals (not losing weight/not stickign to diet makes him moody and stressed/0
im trying to decide whether its sweet or a little bit pathetic to get someone to come in occasionally to give him some proper food. it wouldnt be hard to find someone to bring the occasional meal. ive already investigated bringing in someone in to give the house a bit of clean so i dont come back to absolute squalor
so – am i treating him like a baby who will starve without my help, or am i being considerate? i cant tell!!
Post # 3
He could always grab a sub or salad. He is an adult and can feed himself. You could make up a few meals and have them ready to be heated up, but I think that is even a little much.
Post # 4
@newname_99: I think that asking someone to cook for him is way to much. He is a grown man, let him fend for himself. I do most of the cooking at home and that is fine but if I were to be out of town, he is on his own. I doubt he will starve. Who fed him before you came along?
Go enjoy yourself with your family and when you return he will be so grateful for all you do because he will notice the difference. 🙂
Post # 5
You could make some healthy meals and freeze them ahead of time for him. But he’s an adult and can handle himself. I can’t cook and when I’m left on my own, I still managed to be fed without eating junk every night.
Post # 6
Try getting a small freezer (if you don’t have one already) and cook “TV dinners”, lasagnas, pizzas, and savory pies that he can heat up in the microwave. And you can freeze hummus etc… and get low-fat, or baked corn chips for him if he wants a snack… you can create low-fat icecreams too! You have a whole month to do it… I wish I was there, I’d do it with you!
EDIT – I read the above posts after I posted mine… I guess I “mother” too much!
Post # 7
I think it would be a tad ridiculous, yeah. BUT, PPs had some great suggestions if you think he’ll need some help. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m pretty sure a perk of me leaving town is 1- he can eat McDonalds/pizza/ Taco Bell for 3-4 times a day without me knowing and 2- he gets the bed and covers to himself. My vote is to let the man fend for himself.
Post # 9
Yes, yes I’d say it’s ridiculous: He won’t starve:)
Post # 10
I’d talk to him and gve him tips on how to prepare the low-fat foods he loves (so he can stay on track) – and then leave it up to him. If he ends up eating candy bars all day, then so be it.
Post # 11
I think freezer meals are the way to go here.
Post # 12
@happyface: i clearly mother too much too!!! its just seeing him come home zombie like from being at work 10+ hours. makes me want to make it better somehow. ive alsp ive seen him open a bag of crisps and call it “dinner”
you’re all right, i am being ridiculous (though you’re all too polite to state it outright!). we have a mini freezer, i might make one or two in advance for him to reheat quickly and after that its on his own
Post # 13
I would definitely let the man fend for himself. He IS an adult after all and you are not his Mother!
Post # 14
I think it’s up to the two of you. There are healthy foods that you can get for take out, but depending on the hours he works even that can become very limited.
There are many companies out there where you can pick up ready to eat, need to heat and frozen dinners, that are healthy.
I think a combination of having a bit of stuff you prepared, places he can go to get healthy prepared food as well as some cooking on his own wouldn’t be ridiculous.
Post # 15
@Mrs.Jansen: i am starting to wonder who fed him before i came along. hes made two attempts at meals lately to be romantic – the first was a cooked breakfast in bed. he fried potatoes in an inch of oil and then put potatoes AND oil on the plate. the egg was literally floating in oil like a lilo on a pool. then there was the meatballs, im not sure what he did to them but they were meatrocks, to the point where it was hard to bite through them. we both struggled to eat them and he got embarrassed and said it was the though that counted – and didnt believe my bright smiles and “its delicious baby, thankyou so much for making dinner” haha
Post # 16
@AB Bride: mexico doesnt have a lot of convenience food other than frozen burgers or pizzas. in england you can get a lot of meals you just whack in microwave/oven but that are actually nice – chicken in white wine sauce, beef stroganoff, lasagne or whatever. its something i really miss actually (just for occasions where i feel a bit lazy but want something decent). its good though i guess, if you prepare from scratch you know whats gone into it