is it rude…

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: is it rude to give a list?
    yes : (11 votes)
    8 %
    no : (128 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 3
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I dont think that is rude at all. My photog. actually requested something similar from me!

    Post # 4
    473 posts
    Helper bee

    I think that’s actually very common. A lot of photographers will actually request such a list.

    Post # 6
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think its rude at all. Photographers are expensive and I would want to make sure they capture the memories I want to have.

    Post # 7
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I don’t think it’s rude at all. I think it’s a great idea I plan to give my photographer one as well.

    Post # 8
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I personally don’t think it is rude at all. I would give it to someone that is going to be around the whole day to make sure that you get all the pictures. I had a small list but forgot to give it to anyone and there are a couple pictures that were on the list that weren’t taken (my fault, not at all the photographers fault). Unfortunately, there are always going to be pictures that you wish you had gotten but didn’t think about until after.

    Like, the picture you want of every table. I didn’t think about that one till after the fact and wish I would have those pictures taken. Or a pic of the bride and groom with every table.

    I don’t dwell on the pictures we didn’t get though. Our pictures turned out better then I ever could have imagined and the day was absolutely perfect!

    good luck 🙂

    Post # 9
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    My photographer gave me a list with typical photos brides want as well as some blanks for pictures that we must have that aren’t on there. That way, she and her crew know ahead of time what we want & how long it should take.

    She made it a point to say that most photographers don’t want you to give them a list a mile long though.

    Post # 10
    788 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Its only rude if you come with a ridiculously long list or like you are trying to micro manage. You are going to make them feel like you dont trust them or they know how to do their job.

    Many of us request list for formals and ask about any particular details like the ring that was your grandmas on your bouquet. As for the rest we can do our thing and you should trust them. 🙂


    Post # 11
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsPocahontas:  My photographer gave me a list of options and I have to check off the photos that we want her to take.  There are so many options, we probably don’t want most of the options listed.

    Post # 12
    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It isn’t rude – perhaps your photographer hasn’t offered or thought of that as an added benefit — my guy is giving me a list he deems as his “standard” and then he’s going to have me add any others I’d like — BUT he’s also asked me to have the people on that list KNOW they are on that list and not go run to the store, get a smoke, decide to change prior to said pics.. he will not hunt them down and I DON’T blame him. We both have large’ish familys and huge personalities so I am hoping (cross fingers) everyone cooperates. 

    As to hating pics — I think we’re our own worst critics. I will prolly have to take sedatives to see my initials (and am thinking of asking the photographer to perhaps NOT post to FB before I see). 

    Post # 13
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My photographer asked me for a list! The only thing I wish I’d gotten more of was my hair. My hair was way prettier on the left side, but unfortunately most of the pictures only show the right side. Oh well!

    Post # 14
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MrsPocahontas:  It’s not rude, but my photog still didn’t get everything on the list, it’s not a guarantee!

    Post # 15
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I do think it’s rude but I’m doing it anyway 😛 It implies I think the photog doesn’t know which pictures to take…but maybe he doesn’t! So, I’m doing it because the whole reason we are doing a ceremony at all is for pictures (we are already legally married).

    Post # 16
    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    My photog likes to come up with a “photo script”… its a detailed plan (with room for improvisation) of what/where/who.

    So like 1:00-1:15, bride and bridesmaids in the garden, bride wants a photo with each girl individually and group shots.

    1:15-1:30 Bride and groom over by the pond, ring shot and veil-over-his-head requested shots

    1:30-2:00 Bridal party all together, various locations, must have funny group shot

    Those aren’t mine, just examples off the top of my head. That way there is room to improvise like if they see a place prettier than the garden, but it also helps her know which people she needs to be calling out or keeping close by, and that way she also schedules in a time to ensure the bride gets all her desired shots.

    My mom came up with ours (it was quite detailed without detailing EVERY last picture or anything) and she was thrilled lol.

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