Post # 1
There is a family of 5 that are basically the only people my parents are inviting to my wedding. They’ve been in our lives for 20 years, and we consider them to be our family. Is it appropriate for me to ask them about their availability on my potential wedding dates so I can make sure they can attend if they wish? I just said like, hey, we’re thinking about these dates in LA, can you tell me if you have conflicts you already know about? I just went ahead and emailed them without thinking, and now I wonder if it was rude since it could be seen as putting pressure on them to come, and could be an imposition. All of them (plus my own family) would have to fly to my wedding from out of town. Maybe I’m overthinking it? Help.
Post # 3
Totally appropriate and considerate. I checked with our immediate families, our officiants and our bridal party prior to booked a date!
Post # 2
I definitely think it’s appropriate. We consulted with our families and really close friends before picking our date to make sure the people closest to us could be there.
Post # 4
Always good to check with your VIPs. Just don’t come back on here and complain if they decline after you plan your wedding around their availability. 😉
Post # 5
It’s a special compliment when you are asked if the date works for you!
Post # 6
No, not rude at all. I think it’s a great idea.
Post # 7
Nothing wrong with that at all!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Is it a local wedding for them or will they need to travel far? You said “these dates in LA” so that is the only part that makes me wonder. If they live in LA, then yes it is of course fine and probably appreciated. I checked with both immediate families and bridal party before picking my date.
Post # 9
xtals: I don’t think it’s rude ! If it was me I would be very touched that I meant so much to you that you would make sure I’m available for your wedding. Go on and ask them.
ETA : Maybe they’ll be okay with many of your date suggestions and will simply tell you to decide what you prefer because either way, they’re available.