Post # 1
My fiance’s cousin has asked us to hire him a suit for the wedding. Is this rude?!
My fiance has now made him a groomsman but we’re going to have to pay for another suit. It’s customary in the UK for the bride & groom to pay for the outfits of the wedding party (I wish I lived in the US!). We are already hiring 4 suits for my fiance, his 2 brothers and his dad.
His cousin is only 18 years old so has no means of paying for the suit. If I was to ask him to pay his family would probably think I was cheap! I’m not cheap but at the same time I don’t like people calling and asking me to hire things AND pay for them!
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
Was he made a groomsman before or after he asked?
Post # 4
@strawbabies: He wasn’t originally in the wedding party. He was made a groomsman after he asked us to hire a suit!
Post # 5
@mailingis: If he asked before he was in the Wedding party yes that is very rude. You can hardly hire a suit for everyone attending your Wedding.
Post # 6
@mailingis: On this statement yes it’s rude. If you had asked him to be one of the groomsman and THEN he asked I would have said UK-style no it’s not that rude.
Post # 7
I am from the UK and I don’t understand the problem here…
– He’s a groomsman, therefore you should have offered to pay for his suit.
– He’s a teenager, and therefore you should have expected that you would have to pay.
The answer to your question is as follows:
– Was is rude for him to call and ask? Possibly.
– Was it rude for you not to offer immediately? Yes.
EDIT: Just seen that he was not in the bridal party before he asked. That’s not so much rude as just… really weird. But at least he’s in the bridal party now, so you’ve sort of resolved the issue. Kind of strange that he would ask when he wasn’t part of the bridal party. Did you suggest a rather unusual dress code, or something, which would mean that he could not have been expected to own the correct attire?