Post # 1
We have 35 rooms booked at the hotel for our wedding. Half are OOT guests and the rest are our friends and family that did not want to worry about driving after wedding. I never really thought of doing guest bags until last minute. My FI really wanted to do them-he thought is was rude not to-but we just did not have the time to do it. The hotel manager even said so many of them get left behind in the rooms without people going through them, so that made me feel a little better. We are hosting a breakfast the next morning for all the guests. Is bad not have the guest bags? I am kind of stressing about it now!
Post # 3
@vanilla44: I really wouldn’t worry about it. We were OOT guests at a wedding and never got a welcome bag….we didn’t even miss it. It’s really not a big deal!
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry. I think hosting a breakfast is enough
Post # 5
Also remember that some things like this aren’t even heard of! I never heard of OOT bags till I joined wedding bee. Perhaps none of your guests have heard about it either. I would nix the bags and save yourself some sanity. I’m not doing any either.
Post # 6
Don’t stress, it’s definitely not rude to skip the OOT bags.
Post # 7
I hadn’t heard of OOT bags until I joined either. Half our guests will be OOT guests since my FI’s family lives anywhere from 4-8 hours away. We’re not doing OOT bags.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s rude not to have them – I’ve only been to one wedding where they were given and, quite frankly, it mostly contained personalized favors (golf balls, playing cards, votive candle) that I ended up throwing away after I got home. I figure if I stick to just a few edible treats, some local maps/brochures, and a welcome letter, they’re more likely to be consumed/taken, but I’m just not sure that they’re worth the increase in our budget.
So no, definitely not rude to have them, and possibly a waste of money if not executed well.
Post # 9
Our wedding was pretty much 100% out of town and we didn’t create them. I’ve never seen one outside of WB land so I really don’t think they are as common as people think.
Post # 10
We had over half of our guest who were out of town. I never heard of them until this site also. As pp said I wouldn’t worry about it
Post # 11
The majority of weddings I’ve attended where I am an out of town guest at I don’t get a oot bag. The only advice I would have have print outs with places to eat, times of wedding weekend events. Last year at a wedding I attended, my group of college friends and I were off having dinner and doing things together not knowing about the welcome bbq and hangouts the bride and groom had set up. We felt a little left out when we heard about it, it spread through word of mouth, and since most of us were her college friends and didn’t really know her local friends and family members no one remembered to tell us so word never got to us, and extra directions and addresses in case anyone forgot them at home.
Post # 12
I don’t think it is RUDE to not do them, but as a guest I really appreciate them…. it doesn’t have to be extensive. I think even a bottle of water and a bag of chips goes a long way (especially if half the people are staying b/c they are drinking).
Post # 13
I’d never heard of them before the bee, and for all the wedding I’ve gone to OOT, I’ve never gotten one. Even after Weddingbee, I never thought to want one. You don’t need them.
Post # 14
@TwoCityBride: I agree to keep the people informed about the happenings.
OOT bags are definitely nifty and considerate, but most people will just follow the bride and groom around majority of their stay anyway.
I live and my wedding is taking place in Virginia. My family is from Ohio and his is from South Carolina. They all have to travel. We are not doing OOT bags because I know that most of the time, if we aren’t out running errands, they’ll all be at our house anyway, which I don’t mind at all lol. Our families are fairly close knit and a few know each other. Also most of our friends actually live here and know where everything is.
I don’t think it is inconsiderate at all.
Save yourself the stress, and if FI thinks you guys should do it, maybe he should take it for action, lol!
Post # 15
thanks everyone! i feel much better about this now. FI was going to do them, but was so clueless about them-he thought he could put things in a brown paper bag?! haha. he seems ok with not having them now.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
One reason to consider doing them- does the hotel include free water in the room? Ours doesn’t, so we’re doing a really simple bag- water, chips, granola bar, gum, and some local info.
Considering that you’re hosting a breakfast the next day, that’s very generous. I agree-let FI do it at this point, if he wants them. 🙂