(Closed) Is it rude not to introduce the wedding party?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it rude not to introduce the wedding party at the reception?
    Yes! You need to introduce everyone, including the flower girls : (3 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, you should introduce the MOH and BM, but could exclude the flower girls : (2 votes)
    13 %
    No, introduce just you and your fiance : (11 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3183 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We just had ourselves introduced, so I think either way you will be fine. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If you are doing toasts, introduce the MOH and BM before their respective toasts. Otherwise I think its fine if only you two are introduced when you enter.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5557 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I honestly think we just walked in, I don’t think ANYONE was introduced… If we were I can’t remember. But I don’t think it is rude at all to not do some big intro for the bridal party. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee

    The grand entrance with music playing is appropriate for heads of state entering into their court, where importunate courtiers wait to show respect to their leader. When a host and hostess make a grand entrance in such a way it is … how did you put it?… over the top. And not very polite to their guests, who are made to stand around waiting as serfs used to wait for lords and gentry. It is commonly done, but a little pompous, and not the best form.

    A truly polite formal hostess already knows all her guests, and doesn’t need to be introduced to them. She does, however, need to introduce her guests to other guests that may not already have met. The best way to do this is by getting to the reception hall first, ahead of the other guests, and greet them as they arrive. Have the guests of honour standing next to you, and as you greet each guest introduce them to your guests of honour. If the hostess is the bride’s mother, she stands with the groom’s mother, and then the bride and groom, and then optionally the maid of honour. The other bridesmaids and the hostess’s socially suave kinswomen should circulate around the end of the receiving line, to be introduced to guests who have just emerged from the receiving line, and conduct them off to meet two or three other people so that they can find a conversation group to merge into; after which duty the bridesmaid or kinswoman circulates back to the vicinity of the receiving line to take custody of the next guest or two, and get them comfortably integrated into the gathering.

    You can do the show-biz style public introduction if you truly want to, with or without music, but it is less polite than the understated low-key personal introductions that are made in the receiving line.

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