(Closed) Is it rude (or, gasp, tacky!) to invite the same guests to two showers?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it rude/tacky/poor etiquette to invite the same guests to two showers?
    It's OK to invite the bridal party, but not others. : (8 votes)
    30 %
    It's fine to invite your close friends to both showers. : (10 votes)
    37 %
    No way, that looks like a total gift grab. : (8 votes)
    30 %
    I don't have an opinion, but I hate the word "tacky." : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We invited a few people to two of our showers (one of my bridesmaids and then a few family members). We specifically told them that we just wanted them to come and enjoy the party and that they better NOT bring a gift. They didn’t listen, but I absolutely did not want them to feel like we were trying to be “gift grabby”. We just wanted them to come!

    In our case, I couldn’t imagine NOT inviting those people to the second shower. They wanted to be a part of the parties so we happily included them.

    Post # 4
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think in your situation it’s completely fine.  Like you said, one is a bachelorette party/lingerie shower and one is a normal bridal shower.  They’re two completely different events/types of event, if you ask me.  I wouldn’t even think about not inviting my close friends to either of those two events.  

    Post # 6
    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    if you were having 2 traditional showers, then i would have voted only Bridesmaid or Best Man to be invited to both, but because they are 2 different types of showers, i think it’s fine to invite close friends to both.

    Post # 7
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I agree with the PPs, as long as you tell the close friends that you don’t expect gifts for both, I think there’s no problem with it.  They’re two completely different types of showers.

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