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posted 3 months ago in Photography
  • poll: Is it rude to ask my photographer to alter their style a bit?
    Hell to the yes that's rude. You picked him for his style so trust it. : (20 votes)
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    No, he's providing a service and you should get what you want. : (35 votes)
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    chastetiltuesdayFB    May 13, 2012   Boston, Massachusetts

    Hi, Bee Ladies:

    I've got a great photographer booked for my May wedding. I booked him months ago and he has been amazingly communicative and helpful over the last few months.

    Over the last few weeks, I've looked at recaps from other wedding photographers, and I've noticed that I really like a more lit, less dark look -- my fiancee is white and I am black and I want to make sure that either of us is not too blown out in the pictures. Also, we're having a classic wedding in the courtyard of a beautiful mansion with reception under a tented pavilion, and I want it to have a very classic but photojournalistic feel which my photographer is an ACE at. :)

    Would it be wrong to ask my photographer to ask for slightly more lighted photography (with examples, our course) or would a photographer see that as insulting? I'm especially concerned about the interracial aspect and the contrast -- I've seen photographer of black brides whose skin tone looked super dark or overly blown out to compensate and I want to look back on our photos thinking photos looked like us with real skin tone.

    Thanks, Bees!

     

     
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    msfahrenheit    August 28, 2011   Blacksburg VA

    I don't think it's exactly rude, but I think it's unrealistic to expect him to change. He's built his artistic style over years of practice. Even if he is open to your request, he probably won't be able to do it well. Since this is a small thing, I'd just mention it to him and hope that he can keep it in mind for the wedding.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Have you seen any of his pictures of interracial couples?  This might be a moot point because he might already adjust for different skin tones.  I would just say that you are concerned about your skin tone looking dark or ashy and see what he says.  I'm not sure he would be able to change his style at the drop of a hat and for you to still get great photos like he usually has.

     
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    chastetiltuesdayFB    May 13, 2012   Boston, Massachusetts

    @MissAsB: Sadly, he hasn't shot any interracial or black brides before. He did shoot a black groom and his White bride, but I wouldn't say it's the same -- he was wearing black and I'll be in an ivory/champagne dress.

    I will definitely explain this issue of shooting us as interracial couple -- sadly, for many photographers I've heard from this is kind of new territory and you just have to meter and light shots correctly.

     
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    GreenDream    February 25, 2012   Toronto/Edmonton

    Just talk to them about your concerns. They're professional, they probably know the solution better than you do and can reassure you. I would shy away from anything remotely close to telling them how to do their job.

     
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    msfahrenheit    August 28, 2011   Blacksburg VA

    @chastetiltuesdayFB:  Can you do an engagement session before the wedding to see how he handles it and give him a chance to adjust his style?

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    Are you doing an engagement session with him?  Those shots should be very telling, and maybe you can express your concerns with him then and get him to do a few shots with you wearing white just for practice even if that's not what you want to be wearing in your e-pics.

     
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    likelimeade    August 18, 2012   Chicago, IL

    I don't think that you need to consider this 'asking him to alter his style.' I think that you can simply tell him that you want both of you to look like yourselves, and ask him to try to keep your skin colors as true to real life as possible. I was a bridesmaid a few months ago, and the photographer showed the bride his first few pictures on the digital camera so she could make sure that she liked how her makeup was coming out in the pictures -- maybe you could ask to see a few to make sure you look how you want to look?

     
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    If you hired a real professional, I think you need to trust them.  There is more dynamic range between the white dress and black tux than there is in your skin tones.  If the brides dress and tux look good and detailed, your skin will come out fine.   I think you can question this concern, but I wouldn't go and start showing sample images.

     

     
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    occhiblu    August 13, 2011  

    I agree that an engagement photo session is probably the best way of gauging this, for both you and the photographer.  If the pics turn out fine, you don't have to worry about it; if they don't turn out the way you want, then you have concrete examples of the photographer's own work to let him know what you like and what you don't like.

     
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    MissCallieJean       NY

    I'm sure your photographer will know what to do to make your pictures perfect. Definately voice your concerns, it will probably make you feel better.

     
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    MissTX    May 17, 2013   Texas

    I agree, I think he will know exactly what to do to make your pics turn out awesome. I wouldn't ask him to "change" his style but I would just bring up the concern that you are a little worried about the pictures turning out because of your different skin tones. I'm 100% sure that if he is really experienced, he will adjust and make sure everything looks great. Try not to worry :) We are interracial also and I have faith that my photog will take the right pics and edit accordingly..whatever that means lol. It will be fine!! :)

     
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    continuumphotography    May 13, 2006   San Diego, LA, Southern CA, & everywhere else!

    As a photographer I think what you're asking seems less to do with style, then technical ability.  If he or she has difficulty metering contrasting skin tones there may not be a quick fix for that lack of knowledge.  But without seeing examples of their work it's hard to really make an assessment. 

    Style to me is different than technical ability, and pertains more to post processing techniques like color toning, and composition.  If it were a matter of that I wouldn't necessarily say it's rude to ask a photographer to change that, but it's better to find a photographer whose style matches your vision than it is to try and mold someone to it.  Whether or not they'd be open to making certain changes is hard to say.  

     
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    chastetiltuesdayFB    May 13, 2012   Boston, Massachusetts

    Thanks to all, especially @MissTX (another interracial couple's perspectively was GREATLY appreciated) and @continuumphotography: I'll definitely speak with my photographer about my concerns and he's a professional so I'm sure he'll be able to handle it. Many thanks!!!

     

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