- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Backstory: We already have a family bridal shower in the works that family members offered to throw for us. I informed my MOH of this a while ago, in a “Hey, I figured this wouldn’t bother you because this way you can just plan one for friends only”. (Working under the assumption that the MOH typically plans it).
I have no doubt that she would plan a bridal shower for me- we are best friends, and she loves party planning, and when she was MOH for a girl who she wasn’t even close to anymore, she went all out. I even helped her make the invites for it.
If she’s willing to go all out for a girl she didn’t even feel close to, I feel pretty confident that she’s going to plan something for me.
Not only that, but she already told me that I will be her Lady-of-Honor, and I know I will want to plan a pretty awesome bash for her as well, so it just seems natural that we plan each others.
The problem: Trouble is, she hasn’t brought anything up yet.
I feel etiquette-icky coming straight out and saying “So, you are planning on hosting one, right?”, but I feel like we at least need to set a date if she is planning to do one.
I don’t need to know details, I don’t care how much or how little she spends, but I at least need to have a heads up on the time frame.
The Question: She and I are going to Chicago next weekend for a wedding-invite workshop- would it be wrong to bring it up? Should I just say “Hey, just wanted to get your ideas on this” or maybe bring up my family shower and see if she says anything?
I really just want to get a date set if she is planning one, because we are both busy ladies, and with FI and I in school, it helps to plan ahead.
Also, I want to make sure that she’s even ok with the idea of hosting both a friends-only bridal shower as well as a bachelorette party. I don’t want her to feel like I’m expecting too much from her, but I’m curious about what her thoughts are.
At the end of the day, I only want her to do the planning she wants to do. I just want an idea of what that is going to be so we can get some dates set. 🙂