(Closed) Is it rude to ask that no kids be at the wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it rude to ask that no kids be at the wedding?
    rude : (26 votes)
    10 %
    completely reasonable : (235 votes)
    90 %
  • Post # 3
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    people are pretty split on this. some parents are happy to have an adults only night, other parents cant fathom the idea of leaving their little ones at home.most people say that breastfeeding babies count as the exception

    i dont have children yet, so to me it seems reasonable. ill have to wait and see how i feel when i have kids!

    Post # 4
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it’s rude at all.

    Post # 5
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Completely reasonable.  Also, quieter and less irritating, haha.

    Post # 6
    5985 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    yes, its rude. what if someone told you that you cannot bring your SO to their wedding?

    Post # 8
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It’s your wedding and therefore your choice. I see absolutely no issue with asking that no children attend.

    However, it seems this is likely to put some peoples noses out of joint, so I would suggest to just be prepared to either cop a little flack over it or the possibility that some people choose not to attend for this reason. Good luck! 🙂

    Post # 10
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    FYI, your poll asks the opposite question to your thread title.  So you’ll probably get some pretty messed up results and a lot of accidental votes!

    Post # 12
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You know, the parents have enough time to find someone for their kids for that ONE special day. If they don’t, then in my opinion, they don’t think you are important enough for a babysitter for those few hours… UNLESS it’s a newborn! Then I wouldn’t be attending any function if I had a newborn…

    Post # 13
    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I don’t think it’s rude. It’s your day, you’re paying for it- you do what you want. 


    Post # 15
    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Not rude at all. If you’re worried about it and have the means to do so, you could provide a sitter.

    Post # 16
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think it depends.  For example, if your sister has a nursing baby and lives out of town, saying she can’t bring her baby is pretty much equivalent to saying your own sister can’t come to your wedding.  (It isn’t realistic for her to leave a nursing baby at home for several days, or to find a babysitter in a strange city.)  On the other hand, if everyone close to you is local and the wedding is in the evening, getting babysitters is not such a big deal.

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